To build a secure self, to pursue success without falling for obsession, to connect with others without losing your values. It will take a two-part approach: Build up: We need to fill your basic internal needs with quality content instead of junk food. We need to find significance, coherence, direction, and belonging that is genuine. Dislodge and realign: We need to ensure that when we knock ourselves out of that rut, we are able to find a new path that doesn’t lead to delusion.