“Maybe a lot of us, women especially, go through life pleasing people. First we try to be what our parents want us to be,” said Adele, thinking of the place she was in when she met Miller. Unformed in a lot of ways, ripe for the taking. “Then maybe our boyfriends or husbands. Then everyone—social media, our kids, the neighbors. It’s not even conscious all the time. It often takes a moment of reckoning before we ask ourselves, Who am I? What am I doing here? What do I want?” She paused a second,
