During the feedback conversation itself, periodically check in on yourself and slow things down. Self-observation awakens your left prefrontal cortex—which is where the pleasures associated with learning are located. Seth has been working to improve his awareness of what’s happening in the moment: “As quickly as I can, I now think to myself, ‘Okay, this is that thing I do, that triggered thought pattern I get into, and that sick feeling I get.’ And that one thought really helps. I’m not fighting or resisting my thoughts and reactions; I’m just noticing them. Once I think, ‘Yep, this is the
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