This is complex terrain. The givers want us to change in some way. We want to know that it’s okay if we don’t. You say you love me in spite of my flaws; I want you to love me because of them. One dynamic that contributes to the challenge is that the giver and receiver may define acceptance differently. What to the giver seems like a recommendation for a small behavioral tweak may feel to the receiver like a rejection of Who I Am.
