So you’re blaming me in good faith, and I’m indignant and turn around and blame you in good faith. We each see, genuinely, what the other is contributing to the trouble, and we each believe we shouldn’t be taking all the heat for the problem. That’s Systems Insight Number Two: Each of us sees only part of the problem (the part the other person is contributing). Systems Insight Number One is this: Each of us is part of the problem. Maybe not to the same extent, but we’re both involved, each affecting the other.
