Keep in mind that you were once reliant on your porcupine parent; now, that is no longer the case. Your parent may be drawing comparisons—between their parenting and yours, their house and yours, their lifestyle and yours—as a way to maintain their influential role in your life. This isn’t malicious; she is just operating the way she used to. Appreciate what she is dealing with. Try to understand why changing might take time for her.
