Stay in Control The stresses, anxieties and bad habits you bring to any encounter with your porcupine are a huge factor in determining how things will work out between the two of you. Remember, your relationship with your porcupine is a two-way street, and you must be a careful negotiator. How you behave, how you speak, react—even smile—can shape the outcome. So, no matter what, stay in control, and don’t let your emotions get the best of you.