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Shiv Khera
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April 24 - May 13, 2020
They constantly keep looking for validation and approval from others.
They brag about themselves.
They lack assertiveness.
Assertiveness means firmness with politeness.
have pessimistic behavior
Nouveau riche are a breed of people who have made new money.
They become rebellious against authority. I make
They have a hard time giving or receiving compliments.
that people make things, things don’t make people.
Lily Tomlin said, “The problem with the rat race is that even if you win, you are still a rat.”
There are some physical manifestations of appearance such as, droopy shoulders, avoiding eye contact, shifty eyes, flimsy handshakes etc.
People with low self-esteem are very unforgiving in nature. They permanently hold grudges against others.
They are sympathy seekers and they indulge in self-pity. What is self-pity? Self-pity is a victim complex.
they don’t want to lift themselves up, but they want to pull others down.
have an escapist attitude.
They procrastinate.
they become self abusive. They
person with low self-esteem is suffering from loneliness even when he is amongst large groups of people,
Loneliness is the pain of being alone, solitude is the pleasure of being alone.
High Self-Esteem
Low Self-Esteem
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Confidence Confusion Concerned about character Concerned about reputation
Optimistic Fatalistic
Solitude Lonely
Discipline Distorted sense of freedom
Knows limit Everything goes
Giver Taker
Our character can be judged by everything we do or like. Our character is revealed by:
The company we keep or avoid. • How we treat others—especially our subordinates, the elderly and the disabled.
The books we read
In order to support others physically and emotionally, one needs to be strong both physically and emotionally.
Just like a passport is a pre-requisite to travel the world, similarly, a high self-esteem is a pre-requisite to lead a meaningful life confidently.
Delinquent?
Integrity is a lot stronger than honesty.
In fact it is the foundation of honesty.
“success breeds success and failure breeds failure.”
Confusing Failing with Failure
Discipline is loving firmness. It is direction.
It is harnessing and channeling energy for great performance.
Sometimes you have to be unkind to be kind:
If discipline were practiced in every home, juvenile delinquency would be reduced by ninety-five per cent.
A boy was flying a kite with his father and asked him what kept the kite up. Dad replied, “The string.” The boy said, “Dad, it is the string that is holding the kite down.” The father asked his son to watch as he broke the string. Guess what happened to the kite? It came down. Isn’t that true in life? Sometimes the things that we think are holding us down are the very things that are helping us fly. That is what discipline is all about.
STEPS TO BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM
Read biographies and autobiographies of successful people who have turned their weakness into strength
Some of the best music was composed by Beethoven. What was his handicap? He was deaf.
One of the greatest world leaders was US President Franklin D. Roosevelt. What was his handicap? He served from a wheelchair.
Learn Intelligent Ignorance
Learn to Give and Receive Compliments
We are custodians for the future generations.
