the question of intentions is a separate topic from the accuracy or helpfulness of feedback. The giver might be jealous or mean-spirited or totally nuts, and yet their feedback might be dead right, the most useful thing we’ve heard in months. Or maybe they really and truly do have our best interests at heart. But their suggestion that you wear those yellow leather leggings to the office? Still a bad idea. So treat trust and content as separate topics, because they are separate topics. Explore what might make sense about the feedback itself. And you can share with the giver the impact that
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