Another challenge for absorbers is that resentment can build over time. Deeper down we know realistically that it’s not all us, yet others don’t seem to be taking their fair share of responsibility. Absorbers also start to bump up against what they can change on their own—when others aren’t willing to look at their part of the problem, there’s only so much one person can do to affect the system. It’s also worth noting here that absorbers can be prone to remaining in situations of abuse. In an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, the person doing the yelling, denigrating, or lashing
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