feedback giver may not be ready or able to acknowledge their contribution to the problem. They may still be stuck in thinking this feedback party is all about you. If that’s the case, there’s still something you can do. Rather than trying to force them to admit to and take responsibility for their part in the problem, describe how they could get a better reaction from you. You’re asking them to change, but you’re casting it (legitimately) in service of helping you change.
