You are listening to understand. The first order of business is archeological: You’re digging under labels, clarifying contours, and filling in pieces you didn’t initially see. You’re assembling all the relevant evidence and background to make sense of the size and shape of the feedback from the giver’s perspective. After that you and your internal voice can convene to decide what to do with what you’ve unearthed—how it fits together with your own view, and whether or not you are going to take their advice.
