So feedback in relationships is rarely the story of you or me. It’s more often the story of you and me. It’s the story of our relationship system. When they blame you, and it feels unfair, blaming them back is not the answer. To them, that will seem unfair, and worse, they’ll assume you’re making excuses. Instead, work to understand it this way: “What’s the dynamic between us and what are we each contributing to the problem?”
