ASK: “WHAT’S ONE THING YOU SEE ME DOING THAT GETS IN MY OWN WAY?” How to elicit just one thing? Don’t say, “I’d like some feedback.” That’s too vague. Instead say: “What’s one thing I could work on?” Or, as we discuss in chapter 4, you can sharpen it by asking: “What’s one thing you see me doing, or failing to do, that’s getting in my own way?” This gives your giver permission to go a little further than usual (hey, you did ask), and it helps them prioritize and cut to the chase.
