According to AA, alcoholics cannot stay static. They must either get better or get worse. Both addiction and recovery are processes. The goal of the addictive relationship, however, is security and therefore stasis. The relationship addict is invested in the idea of security and holds onto the illusion of security even when it becomes obvious that the relationship is deteriorating. A relationship is never static; it is either getting better or getting worse. Its very nature is dynamic. It is a process, not a product. Therefore it is difficult if not impossible to keep it static.
