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Forgiveness Is Costly, But Not Forgiving Is More Costly
An entrenched refusal to forgive is a sign that you have not known God’s amazing forgiveness yourself.
A failure to forgive someone will change you
Forgiveness is an event and a process
I need to keep practicing forgiveness every time I see you or think of you.
Why is the process of forgiveness so important? Because even if you have forgiven someone for an offense, you will be tempted to think about it the next time you see her, or the next time she sins against you. Without realizing it, you will pile that sin on top of the old sins. This makes it harder and harder to forgive someone.
pray everytime i see this person and ask God to help me forgive and change my heart
Forgiveness is not forgetting
The word remember is not a “memory” word, but a “promise” word,
not a memory word but a promise word learnt something new about this verse
Forgiveness has a vertical and a horizontal dimension
They’re both right!
Mark 11:25 is talking about forgiveness as a heart attitude before God.
When I consider someone’s sin as I stand before the Lord, I am called to have an attitude of forgiveness toward the person who sinne...
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Luke 17:3, on the other hand, is talking about forgiveness as a horizontal transaction between me and the offender. This is often referred to as reconciliation.
stand before lord must forvive person in heart. however person to person must seek and desire reconciliation
I can only grant forgiveness to the other person if he repents and admits he has sinned against me.
Even if he never does this, I am called to maintain an attitude of forgiveness toward the offender.
Forgiveness does not mean peace at all costs
Your attempt to love a habitually abusive, unrepentant person sometimes involves confrontation and possibly separation.
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He actually blamed the fight on Melissa!
My wife and I have moved toward spiritual maturity as we have practiced forgiveness and communicated clearly with words that exhibit humility, honesty, and grace.
That is a sin. I may apologize and say I am sorry, but I also need to name the sin, confess that it was wrong, and ask for forgiveness.
The Father emptied heaven of its greatest treasure so that you could be forgiven. Read 1 Peter 1:1—9:
As you ponder your true identity in Christ, do you recognize how wealthy you are?
People at the start of something tend to be dreamers; they want to get started fulfilling the dream.
Our relationships will never work according to our plan
This side of eternity, none of us get to be with the person of our dreams and none of us are ready to be the person of someone else’s dreams! We are all flawed
Our relationships will always grapple with some kind of difficulty
Our relationships will always need to improve
Real encouragement is more about sightedness than it is about explanation.
When I talk about sightedness, I am not talking about physical eyes, but the eyes of the heart.
Spiritual sightedness is a precious gift and an essential life skill. The reason we get overwhelmed and discouraged in relationships is not because we don’t understand what is going on. We are discouraged because we don’t see Christ. 16
Christ’s presence
Your goal here is to help people develop a “Christ is with me” mentality.
Psalm 46:1—2: “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains...
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Christ’s promises
Our potential in Christ
Up is down, life is death, and power is found and expressed in serving.
Repentance and faith must be your daily lifestyle. Why? Because it lays you low and lifts you up at the same time.
Father, Son, and Spirit redeemed a fallen world through service and sacrifice. There is nothing more God-like than serving others.
We too are flawed people; we too need mercy every day of our lives.
But it is more comfortable to think of ourselves as righteous and strong while others are needy and weak.
Mercy is the kind, sympathetic, and forgiving treatment of others that works
relieve their distress and cancel their debt. Or (2) mercy is compassion combined with forbearance and action. These two definitions tell us a lot about what mercy
What makes mercy merciful is a heartfelt compassion that results in some kind of action toward the other person. Mercy is not just something you feel; mercy is something you do. It is a lifestyle, a stance toward others that shapes everything we say and do.
Do your relationships demonstrate a willingness to suffer for another’s sake?
Do your attitudes and responses change when you discover that a person is “poor” in some way? Mercy means you resist the temptation to favoritism
Are there relationships in which you have indulged in favoritism?
Mercy means you are committed to persevere in hardship
In your relationships, where are you struggling with God’s call to persevere? Mercy rejects a “personal happiness” agenda
Where is God calling you to leave what is comfortable so that you can share what he has given you with another? Mercy means you live with a commitment to forgive
Are there people in your life you are struggling to forgive? Mercy means you overlook minor offenses
