The deeper the conflict and the more powerless one feels, the greater the need to escape the pain and confusion. Michael Schwalbe reported a telling example of this: Once when I was talking to a professor in his office, another professor leaned in the doorway and said, “I just heard a new excuse for missing an exam. A student said he couldn’t come in today because he had to move a trailer house.” The professor to whom I was talking laughed and replied, “That’s one I never heard before. I guess it tells you you’re really at a blue-collar college.” Part of me liked being privy to this exchange.
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