Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

by Margalis Fjelstad

The more you give in, the more BP/NPs escalate their behavior because you are rewarding them for acting badly.

Usually these talks just escalate into another emotional uproar. It is another way for the BP/NP to hang on to your attention in a negative way, and it pulls you into being the persecutor, complaining and demanding but with nobody feeling or acting any better.

Using these techniques and skills will make your interactions with the BP/NP work more effectively, but they won’t change the fact that you are in a relationship with a mentally ill and emotionally dysfunctional person.