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May 25 - December 16, 2025
Their belief in their inner scarcity blinds them to the greater possibilities for abundance in adulthood.
as long as Fives believe that their capacities for love and intimacy are limited, their true ability to love and be loved remains hidden from them in their Shadow
When we first moved into our home, a neighbor repeatedly asked me to join the book club comprised of women from our neighborhood. Honestly, it was as if she was asking me to run away with her and join a circus—the idea was that strange and unappealing. I still hide from her when I see her around.
Open up to seeing ways you might share your gifts with the world if you were to spend more time outside the walls of your castle.
They dream of finding an idealized, special love connection that will make up for or reverse their loss.
this is a strategy of “seeking happiness through pain.”
My intensity makes me special.
Their willingness to suffer without complaint is their way of seeking redemption and earning love.
They put themselves in situations that are tough. They test and challenge themselves.
In some cases, they may not know how to live without the stress and pressure they put on themselves.
For this subtype, masochism is the ego or personality’s strategy for getting love.
It just seems like a waste of time not to be doing or accomplishing something.
“What’s wrong with you that you think there’s something wrong with you?”
Melancholy has always been my favorite feeling.
For all of us, waking up to habitual personality patterns involves making ongoing, conscious efforts to observe ourselves, reflect on the meaning and sources of what we observe, and actively work to counter automatic tendencies.
“goodenough-ness.”
The only lies for which we are truly punished are those we tell ourselves. —V. S. Naipaul
“When you come to town, things get done.”
Before I jump in, I now ask the following questions: Does this have to done at all? Does it have to be done right now? Does it have to be done by me?
I am now fine not being fine.
Spiritual teacher and author A. H. Almaas further explains that hope is “the realization that Reality ‘does itself,’ independent of our imaginary autonomy.”
When driven by vanity, Threes know how to further their own interests, but implicitly don’t trust that things will work out of their own accord or develop naturally.
The whole Two personality can be seen as a strategic defense against the humiliation of having to acknowledge need.
This pride-inspired vision of indispensability reflects the survival strategy of needing to be more than you are to compensate for the fear that you are really less than what others see in you.
Type Twos retain the belief that responding to others’ needs is good and expressing your own needs is bad.
Twos often don’t realize that it can be good to say no to another’s request and that sometimes it’s best not to volunteer to help someone else.
Passionate, seductive, and generous, Sexual Twos typically put a great deal of energy into making relationships happen, and can have a very difficult time letting go if a relationship doesn’t work out.
Challenge yourself to own your needs and feelings, and find ways to soothe yourself when you are courageous enough to feel your pain.
enjoy relationships for their inherent value as opposed to simply viewing them as a utilitarian route to survival.
Realize that it’s okay (and actually liberating) to not be perfect or perfectly aligned with others.
Try not to promise more than you can deliver, and realize that this makes your relationships more authentic and deeper.
Allow yourself to feel the pain of neglect or rejection, and realize you can survive it.
Learn to love and accept yourself as you are and risk opening up to receiving affection from others, knowing that if someone doesn’t like you, it might be more about them than about you.
These Ones are avengers; they are not afraid of confrontation. They may be containing a murderous rage that they cannot see.
