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May 25 - December 16, 2025
“The alligator that sleeps becomes a bag.”
These are people who usually feel a need to have a lot of resources, including money and other supplies that support survival, and they may panic if they feel a sense of scarcity.
Self-Preservation Sevens cultivate a sense of being kind and generous—they like to feel that everyone depends on them.
They may feel omnipotent and they may sometimes use people.
They may also feel that normal rules don’t apply to them—that for them, there is no law, and t...
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when they have the Social instinct in second place, they may look more like magnanimous Eights (people-oriented and impulsive).
Their sacrifice and service is the price they pay for their neurotic need for admiration.
They experience repressed guilt for hiding their self-interest in the guise of good, and they may project their disowned guilt for their unacknowledged gluttony onto others, then judge them for not being committed or dedicated enough.
Their idealism is in part based on rationalizing ideologies so that if any of their beliefs are proved wrong, they can simply replace it with another rationale and then explain this change as evolution.
they may not be conscious of their own laziness, love of comfort, and narcissism.
They often express excessive enthusiasm about their visions and may have fantasies of a perfect future.
I like to sneak in the side door, stir things up, make contributions large or small, grab several magpie points for virtue, and then I’ve gotta go.
Sexual Sevens are not as interested in the things of this world as they are in the things of a more highly advanced dimension.
Everything looks better when you are in love,
These Sevens can fall in love very intensely, and they relate to their world through dreaming and imagination. They imagine what the world could be, and they can believe that this optimistic view is real.
It’s so much easier to imagine doing something than to actually do it.
The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard famously said that “anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.”
Work on learning how to tolerate frustration so you can get more of what you want and need in the real world and don’t have to subsist on fantasy.
The drive of this archetype is to scan for danger in a scary world and defensively manage fear and anxiety through fight, flight, or friends.
if a Six is feeling judgmental of or insecure about herself, she may imagine that someone else is judging her.
Sixes deal with uncomfortable feelings like fear and self-doubt by experiencing them as being caused by someone else. By attributing the motives, feelings, or thoughts they do not want to acknowledge in themselves to another person, they expel them from their internal experience and feel safer on the inside.
Driven by an underlying need for safety in what they experience as a world full of potential dangers, Sixes focus on the negative data in their environment (or their own heads) that might signal the presence of threats to their security.
In other words, they can unknowingly (unconsciously) project their fear-based, imagination-fueled thinking to create a threat where none exists.
Sixes tend to focus attention on authorities, either looking for a good authority to guide their actions or regarding people in positions of authority with suspicion.
Sixes typically question or oppose people who express strong opinions.
anxiety can attach to social situations, and Sixes may fear that they will be judged, criticized, or otherwise threatened by other people.
Individual Sixes may feel both persecuted and grandiose.
For the Sexual Six, strength is often directly connected to an illusion of independence and a sense of being able to remain “unscathed” by trouble. They may also have a feeling of being somehow “bad” inside, and their strength protects them from their own inner attacks on themselves.
Sexual Six tends to move toward risky situations, feeling a sense of safety in actually confronting danger rather than hiding from it or avoiding it.
The fact that these Sixes regularly move against danger (or perceived danger) can, at times, give them the appearance of a rebel, a daredevil, a risk-taker, an adrenaline junkie, or a troublemaker.
In some cases, Sexual Sixes may be prone to megalomania or having a “hero complex.” In their own way, they seek to be “good guys” to avoid being punished.
They often believe that there is only one truth, and they prefer concrete and pragmatic ideologies because they feel safe and allow control of the world.
They fear making an error, and the consequences of doing so.
in contrast to the Eight, who tends to be fearless, the Sexual Six is motivated by an underlying fear, even when they don’t consciously feel it or show it.
Sexual Sixes can also look like Threes in that they are action-oriented, fast-moving, assertive, and hardworking.
Notice also if you don’t feel much fear or anxiety, as that may indicate that you are expressing it in other ways, through inhibitions, avoidance, imaginative or paranoid fantasies, projections, overanalysis, or overintellectualization.
Sixes can help themselves by acknowledging that uncertainty is a part of life.
Remind yourself that the search for certainty won’t get you anywhere, so it’s important to consciously shift your attention away from that futile vortex.
the habit of vigilantly watching for signs of danger may lead you to see danger everywhere.
Sixes may find trouble because they are looking for it.
“Is this something I intuitively know or something I am projecting?”
If you are a Six and you think someone is mad at you or judging you, ask them directly before you make up a whole story about it.
consider that you may be underestimating your own strength as a way of finding a hero or a threat outside yourself.
Some Sixes don’t relate to having a prominent experience of fear. These Sixes may be more conscious of angry feelings or the ways in which they act from fear without understanding that it’s fear that drives them.
Just as fear is an anticipatory feeling that something will go wrong, faith is the ability to let go of fear and trust that things will generally be okay.
your head is not necessarily the right organ to tell you how to live fully.
develop the ability to become your own authority.
Allow yourself to feel pleasure without ambivalence and tenderness without reserve.
accepting that you don’t always have to be so strong and so vigilant.
Fives’ avarice thus represents a fearful grasping of time, space, and energy, motivated by an underlying, unconscious fantasy that letting go would result in catastrophic depletion.
