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Jen Sincero
why waste
your time freaking out while you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing?
I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened.
gift.
interest of helping you get a more pleasant perspective on your massive to-do list,
THERE’S NOT ENOUGH TIME
time is an illusion.
get into such bad habits that half the time we don’t even realize what we’re doing. Once you become aware of what your weak spots are, you can start to protect yourself against them.
CHUNK IT DOWN
break it down and just focus on one room at a time. Our brains can only handle so much information at once without exploding, so by looking at each task separately, the larger task suddenly becomes more manageable.
Brains love chunks.
What needs to happen right now? What can wait?
lighten your load is to stop being a control freak
You
We’re taught to play it safe and not take risks, and to caution everyone around us to follow suit.
For example, what would your immediate response be to someone you really loved and deeply cared about if they
said, whilst sputtering with excitement, any of the following things to you: I’m taking out a gigantic loan to build my dream business. I’m going to travel around the world. For a year. By myself. I’m quitting my secure, full-time job to become an actor. I met the most incredible person last week and I’m totally in love. And we’re getting married. I’m going skydiving. For the most part, when we watch someone take a leap of faith, our first reaction is to scream, “Look out!” We’ve not only made a habit out of smearing our fear and worry and doubt all over each other, but we pat ourselves on the
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If we were not only taught to really truly believe in miracles, yes, I realize how dorky that sounds, but were rewarded and supported, instead of cautioned and screamed at, for taking huge leaps into the unknown.
VIEW FEAR FROM YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR
Keep this in mind as you face each new challenge: No matter how intimidating your next great leap forward seems at the moment, it will be a pipsqueak when you look back on it someday. So why wait?
Envision your challenges from the future, look back on them from a place of victory, and they will lose much of their power to paralyze you.
When you find yourself letting fear push you around, look at it from a different perspective. Start by breaking it down, finding what it is that you’re really afraid of and then flipping it around to make it work for you, not against you.
Instead, stay in the moment and connect to your higher self.
breathe into the moment and stay connected to Source Energy. Keep your frequency high and your belief in miracles strong instead of falling prey to the fears in your mind, and you’ll find that not only are you much better equipped to deal with whatever situation it is that you’re headed for, but that, nine times out of ten, it’s much scarier in your mind than it is in reality.
don’t waste your precious time thinking about your problems.
Use your meditative powers to move troubling thoughts out of your mind; focus on relaxing every single muscle in your body one by one, slowly and intentionally, so that it takes up all the room in your brain that you were using to freak out with. Breathe deeply and think about all the incredible things in your life, listen to a guided meditation, do whatever you can to get a good night’s sleep and deal with whatever it is in the morning. Because the only thing worse than staying up all night freaking out about something is then being too exhausted the next day to deal with it either.
When you find yourself dealing with someone who irritates you (and you find yourself getting gossipy, fingerpointy, judgy, complainey), rising up and confronting the situation can do a hell of a lot more than just making your life more pleasant in the long run; it can help you heal and grow and get out of victim mode.
Start noticing the things that drive you nuts about other people, and, instead of complaining or judging or getting defensive about them, use them as a mirror. Especially if you find yourself getting really worked up. Get mighty real with yourself—is this quality something you have yourself? Or is there a certain aspect to it that you’re loath to admit is just like you? Or does it remind you of something you’re actively trying to suppress? Or avoid? Or that you’re actively doing
some of the positive benefits of being rigid are that you’re always on time, you get shit done, etc. But there are also some negative advantages to being rigid too; you intimidate people into getting your way, you get to be right whenever someone messes up (which they’ll do often if you’ve really honed the rigid thing well), you get to be in control, etc. Once you bust yourself on the false reward you’re getting from holding on to this behavior, you can see it for what it is—something that’s not always in alignment with who you truly are and aspire to be—and release it when it’s not working.
HOW WOULD I FEEL IF I WASN’T THIS WAY?
Ask the question and then imagine yourself as this person who has let it go. How does your body feel? What do you use the brain space for that used to be taken up with poisonous thoughts about the inconsiderate pinheads you’re surrounded by who are not following your instructions?
They
life is happening right now. Do
not snooze and lose.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”
Henry Ford
it was after he’d already gone bankrupt in his first attempt at creating an automobile empire. So at that time, he already had plenty of proof that he was capable of failing on a massive scale, but his faith in himself and his vision was so strong that he stuck with it,
The only failure is quitting. Everything else is just gathering information.
You need to have a ten-ton gorilla of desire behind your decision or else you’ll wimp out the second things get hard.
you’re going to push through major obstacles to reach your goal, you can’t just want to want to; you need to be in a full-on tizzy of excitement about what it is you’re going after and hold on to it like a pit bull.
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order to do this you need to have the audacity to be honest about what you really want to do, not what you should do, believe it’s available to you regar...
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Indecision is one of the most popular tricks for staying stuck within the boundaries of what’s safe and familiar. Which is why a common trait of successful people is that they make decisions quickly and change them slowly.
and then make the purchase. Pick things off the shelves at the supermarket in under ten seconds. Knock yourself out of the habit of being a deer stuck in the headlights by demanding you wake up and choose something.
If you’re someone who needs to sleep on it or mull it over a bit, give yourself a deadline.
backward or entertain any ideas of straying
from your decision. Think only of the new you.
living a new one that you’ve never lived before, your faith in miracles, and yourself, must be greater than your fear. However easy or rough your birth process is, you have to be willing to fall down, get up, look stupid, cry, laugh, make a mess, clean it up and not stop until you get there. No matter what.
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