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May 16, 2017 - August 20, 2020
DECEPTIVE BRAIN MESSAGES Any false or inaccurate thought or any unhelpful or distracting impulse, urge, or desire that takes you away from your true goals and intentions in life (i.e., your true self).
Living according to your true self means seeing yourself for who you really are based on your sincere striving to embody the values and achieve the goals you truly believe in. It includes approaching yourself, your true emotions and needs, from a loving, caring, nurturing perspective that is consistent with how your loving inner guide (Wise Advocate) sees you.
WISE ADVOCATE The aspect of your attentive mind that can see the bigger picture, including your inherent worth, capabilities, and accomplishments. The Wise Advocate knows what you are thinking, can see the deceptive brain messages for what they are and where they came from, understands how you feel (physically, emotionally), and is aware of how destructive and unhealthy your habitual, automatic responses have been for you. The Wise Advocate wants the best for you because it loves and cares for you, so it encourages you to value your true self and make decisions in a rational way based on what
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Wise Advocate (like the wise mind). Would this also be the "light of Christ"?
body and brain learned to associate these behaviors with relief (despite the fact that they were causing her harm in the long term).
MAKING MENTAL NOTES The process of becoming aware of and focusing your attention toward noticing the appearance of a thought, sensation, urge, response, or event as it arises.
Make mental notes. Labeling the emotion, feeling, and response.
Mental notes involve more than simply identifying a deceptive brain message, uncomfortable sensation, or habitual response—they also include focusing your attention on them long enough for you to encode, or
remember, the experience without becoming ensnared by it. This allows you to start noticing patterns in your thoughts, urges, sensations, and responses that are unhelpful or harmful to you. When you repeatedly make mental notes, you start to “see” the unhealthy thoughts, urges, sensations, and responses faster and can dismiss them before they spiral out of control.
This is noting them without judging them. A mental picture has no judgement - it's just what is happening.
veto the intended action
I am the chooser. I have the veto power.
Wise Advocate to reevaluate the deceptive brain messages. With its guidance, she chose a positive, healthy response that enabled her to get help.
That ability to refuse to give in to her deceptive brain messages—what we call veto power
Your brain—not your mind—generates the initial desires, impulses, thoughts, and sensations, but you can veto almost any action before it starts. This means that while you are not responsible for the emergence of thoughts, desires, impulses, urges, or sensations, you are responsible for what you do with them once they arise.
Your mind, which enables you and gives you the power to choose what to focus your attention on Your Wise Advocate, which empowers you to see yourself from a loving, caring perspective and helps guide your true self in making choices about how to focus your attention
