The time to focus on your own hopes, dreams, and desires is when you are alone. This is when you should get clear on what you hope to accomplish, on what you would like to occur, in any given encounter. But once you get to this state of clarity and find yourself face-to-face with another, place your attention where it can have the greatest impact. Place it on the person. Don’t be afraid that your wishes will go unnoticed. On the contrary, they will find a way to express themselves in your encounters, whether they arise spontaneously or the other person solicits them, they will arise.
