You must dance to the other person’s tune just as you demand that other persons dance to yours if they want to be especial to you. Pause now to ask yourself if it is worth paying so much for so little. Imagine you say to this person whose special love you want, “Leave me free to be myself, to think my thoughts, to indulge my taste, to follow my inclination, to behave in ways that I decide are to my liking.” The moment you say those words you will understand that you are asking for the impossible.