The Way to Love: Meditations for Life

by Anthony de Mello

What is an attachment? An emotional state of clinging caused by the belief that without some particular thing or some person you cannot be happy.

For when you cling, what you offer the other is not love but a chain by which both you and your beloved are bound. Love can only exist in freedom. The true lover seeks the good of his beloved which requires especially the liberation of the beloved from the lover.