Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

by Adele Faber

WHEN THE CHILDREN CAN’T WORK OUT A PROBLEM BY THEMSELVES 1. Call a meeting of the antagonists. Explain the purpose and the ground rules. 2. Write down each child’s feelings and concerns, and read them aloud. 3. Allow time for rebuttal. 4. Invite everyone to come up with solutions. Write down all ideas without evaluating. 5. Decide upon the solutions you all can live with. 6. Follow-up.

You Two Are Some Team!

the general idea is that most things in the family can be used by anyone who happens to want or need them. “But I also explained that some things are so special or so new or so delicate—like

Those things we keep in a special place and you have to ask permission if you want to use them.

Let each child know what it is about him that his siblings like or admire.

Schedule family meetings.