Radically Condensed Instructions for Being Just as You Are

by J. Jennifer Matthews

We recognize ourselves as open awareness when we stand in the mystery of this feeling. This is our true nature, our open heart. We are searching for this total openness. We’re running from it, too.

I’ve learned from Brene Brown and others to move in closer to these feelings, to learn from what they’re trying to teach me.

“reactive” emotions, attempt to defend us against this primary poignancy.

When I’m aware this is happening, I go through the exercise of thanking my fear for trying to protect me and tell it I’m ok, it can go help someone else.

The major purpose of our fantasies is usually to delay or even prevent real intimacy!

Until we’re aware, then we can go deeper if we have courage and commitment.