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He’s always trying to impress people. When he makes a mistake, he tries to blame others or pretend like it didn’t happen.
After all, why learn how to fake being cool, when you can just learn to become cool yourself?
“You’re cute and I wanted to meet you,” that translates roughly to, “Hi, I’m such a desperate loser that I’m just going to throw all of my desires out there right now and beg you to accept them.”
Remember: what you actually say doesn’t matter; why you say it matters.
The biggest aphrodisiac in the world is someone who likes you, genuinely likes you. A woman’s desire is to be desired. But it has to be genuine desire. It can’t be a, “I’ll desire you as
Non-neediness means you respect yourself AND others. Narcissism means you only respect yourself. Neediness means you only respect others.
But a lot of shit in life hurts. Get over it. It’s for the better. She just saved us both a lot of time and effort.
Your ability and willingness to establish boundaries is inversely proportional to how needy you are. Men who are needy and lack vulnerability will keep their boundaries loose and open, inviting manipulation into their lives and allowing people to walk over them. This is because they are more than willing to alter themselves in order to receive validation from the women they meet.
Men will often have to spend a lot of time seeking truth within themselves first before they’re able to express it to others.
Suddenly, rejection goes from hurting our success rate to often helping it. Having a great date with a woman who wants to wait to have sex with you can become a far greater success than that woman who bangs your brains out an hour after meeting you. We screen through these women by polarizing them. We are polarizing them by sharing our truth with them openly and freely. And when
Fundamentals as Honest Living, Honest Action, and Honest Communication.
• Your belt should match your shoes and/or your accessories. • If you’re wearing dress pants, your socks should match your pants. • If you’re wearing jeans, your socks should match your shoes. • Your accessories must all be gold or all silver.
2. Apathy and Avoidance — This has always been my Achilles’ heel, and it’s quite common. Experiencing apathy and avoidance is exactly as it says: it’s when a man convinces himself that he doesn’t care or that it’s not important to him. I did this for years. I convinced myself
communication when you sleep with a woman, especially the first few times you’re together. Sex is always somewhat awkward
“They make it look so easy in the movies.”
is how comfortable the two people are around each other. (This is another argument for practicing vulnerability, by the way.)
Inexperience • Strict religious and/or cultural upbringing
If you finish way too quickly, try finding a thicker condom. They actually make condoms now that purposely numb your penis so that you can last longer. Try masturbating a few hours before you expect to have sex.
hard as an ox and able to go multiple times.
seriously sexually repressed environment, consider seeking counseling or therapy.
sex. The power dynamic in most couples will switch at this point. The power of choice that the woman had (whether to have sex or not) now usually switches over to the man (whether to commit or not). If this power dynamic doesn’t switch, it’s usually a sign of neediness in the man, and the attraction will not last.
