And the constant arguing isn’t doing the relationship any good. Yet we’re not sure what to do instead. We can’t just pretend there is no disagreement, that it doesn’t matter, or that it’s all the same to us. It does matter, it’s not all the same to us. That’s why we feel so strongly about it in the first place. But if arguing leads us nowhere, what else can we do? The first thing we should do is hear from Aunt Bertha. They Think We Are the Problem
