In fact, the And Stance is probably the most powerful place to stand when engaging in a difficult conversation that requires you to deliver or enforce bad news. If you are breaking up with someone, it allows you to say “I’m breaking up with you because it’s the right thing for me [here’s why], and I understand how hurt you are, and that you think we should try again, and I’m not changing my mind, and I understand that you think I should have been more clear about my confusion earlier, and I don’t think that makes me a bad person, and I understand that I’ve done things that have hurt you, and I
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