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June 17 - July 8, 2019
find themselves saying yes when they mean no, doing things they don’t really want to be doing, doing more than their fair share of the work, and doing things other people are capable of doing for themselves.
not know what they want and need or, if they do, tell themselves what they want a...
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find it easier to feel and express anger about injustices done to others, rather than inj...
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find themselves attracted to needy people.
feel bored, empty, and worthless if they don’t have a crisis in their lives, a problem to solve, or someone to help.
abandon their routine to respond to or do something f...
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feel angry, victimized, unappreciated, and used.
repressed,
pick on themselves for everything, including the way they think, feel, look, act, and behave.
get angry, defensive, self-righteous, and indignant when others blame and criticize the codependents—something codependents regularly do to themselves.
get depressed from a lack of compliments and praise (st...
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feel different from the rest o...
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be afraid of making mistakes.
feel ashamed of who they are.
think their lives aren’t worth living.
lose interest in their own lives when they love.
are afraid of losing control.
It is solving these problems that makes recovery fun.
Except for normal human emotions we would be feeling anyway, and twinges of discomfort as we begin to behave differently, recovery from codependency is exciting. It is liberating. It lets us be who we are. It lets other people be who they are.
It is not always easy, but it is simple.
We may become reactionaries, instead of acting authentically of our own volition (our mental, emotional, and physical energy is attached).
Obsession with another human being, or a problem, is an awful thing to be caught up in.
Why shouldn’t I say something back?
We’re talking here about your lack of peace, your lack of serenity, your wasted moments.
Sometimes people behave in certain ways to provoke us to react in certain ways. If we stop reacting in these certain ways, we take all the fun out of it for them.
