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David Deida
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October 6, 2016 - July 24, 2020
He doesn’t need to be right all the time, nor does he need to be always safe, cooperative, and sharing,
He simply lives from his deepest core, fearlessly giving his gifts,
Spend at least one hour a day doing whatever you simply love to do—what you deeply feel you need to do, in your heart—in spite of the daily duties that seem to constrain you.
Learn to find humor in the unending emotional drama the feminine seems to enjoy so much.
Honor your edge. Honor your choices. Be honest with yourself about them. Be honest with your friends about them.
Use aids to support your relaxation into, and creation from, this source. Read books that remind you of who you are, in truth. Spend time with people who inspire and reflect the source to you. Meditate, contemplate, or pray daily so that you steep yourself in the source.
if you postpone the process of submerging yourself in the source for the sake of taking care of business first, your life will be spent in hours and days of business, and then it will be gone.
he should never betray his own deepest knowledge and intuition in order to please his woman or “go along” with her.
You should always listen to your woman, and then make your own decision.
You may make the right decision or the wrong one, but whatever happens, it is your best shot, and you will strengthen your capacity for future action.
Tell her that you will spend 30 minutes (or some specific time) with her in absolute attention and total presence, but then you must return to carry on your mission.
He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.
Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life.
require sensitivity, spontaneity, and a strong connection to deep truth in order to penetrate chaos and closure in a way that love prevails.
A man’s capacity to receive another man’s direct criticism is a measure of his capacity to receive masculine energy.
The core of your life is your purpose.
If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.
The superior man is not seeking for fulfillment through work and woman, because he is already full. For him, work and intimacy are opportunities to give his gifts, and be vanished in the bliss of the giving.
Each purpose, each mission, is meant to be fully lived to the point where it becomes empty, boring, and useless. Then it should be discarded. This is a sign of growth, but you may mistake it for a sign of failure.
If a man never discovers his deepest purpose, or if he permanently compromises it and uses his family as an excuse for doing so, then his core becomes weakened and he loses depth and presence.
A man should, of course, be a full participant in caring for children and the household. But if he gives up his deepest purpose to do so, ultimately, everyone suffers.
Don’t use your family as an excuse to be less than you can be.
Tasks are important, but no amount of duties adds up to love, freedom, or full consciousness.
When you do your tasks in the right way, they liberate your life energy so that you can attend to what really matters—the investigation, realization, and embodiment of true freedom.
To help you remember the triviality of your daily tasks, interrupt your schedule with refreshers. These refreshers should cut to your core and strip the fat off the moment. Consider your own death. Behold an image of the most enlightened being you know. Contemplate the mystery of existence. Relax into the deepest and most profound loving of which you are capable. In your own way, remember the infinite, and then return to the task at hand.
Don’t believe the literal content of what your woman says unless love is flowing deeply and fully in the moment when she says it.
Men grow by challenge.
A superior man sees his woman’s moods not as a curse, but as a challenge and an amusement.
There are many ways to creatively deal with her moods and help her to open. Tickle her. Take off your clothes and dance the watusi. Sing opera for her. Make animal sounds. Shout at her louder than you ever have and then kiss her passionately. Press your belly into her until she melts. Lift her off the ground and spin her around. Occasionally, talking with her helps, but not as often as humor and physically expressed love.
Uncompromised, youthful, feminine energy turns you on and opens your heart. You actually feel happier around young women.
A man must determine whether a woman really wants him but is playing hard to get, or whether she really doesn’t want him. If she doesn’t want him, he should immediately cease pursuing her and deal with his pain by himself.
The masculine is always seeking release from constraint into freedom.
A good woman is a source of inspiration and attraction into the world for a man. He must never forget, however, that neither the world nor his woman is the purpose of his existence.
Women can attract you, heal you, and inspire your gifts, but they will never satisfy you absolutely. Never. And you know this.
you have learned and will continue to learn that they cannot make good on the promise.
Deep sleep, orgasm, a day of fishing, looking into an infant’s eyes, these occasions can relax you from your search long enough to realize that you already have what you seek, that what appearances promise is a revelation of your own deep and inherently blissful nature.
Instead, chase. Allow yourself to feel how badly you want her. Feel how deep is the itch you want scratched.
Magnify your desiring to the brink of madness. Sustain it with full breath, relaxed body, and open heart. Embrace your woman, if you have one, and give her what you want from her. Give it all to her. Give it away to her.
ejaculation, for the most part, actually depletes and weakens you.
excess ejaculations will diminish your courage to take risks, professionally and spiritually.
most women have a natural connection between their genitals and their heart.
relaxed, loving, watery hours of your fearless and unstressful genital penetration.
He does not settle for less than the total surrender of his woman’s heart, as well as his own, into the fullness of divine union.
