The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

by David Deida

Another way to say this is that she will begin to trust her own masculine more than yours. Then, you will find that she trusts you less and less across the board. She will refuse to surrender to you even sexually, because she hasn’t been able to relax and trust you all day; you haven’t offered her your masculine clarity and perspective, so she has to be her own man and give it to herself.

Your unconsciousness causes her pain. She won’t say it that way, but that’s what she is indicating.

can’t trust you with living your life from your deepest wisdom and fullest capacity, she can’t trust you with her life. She can’t trust your masculine impeccability, so she naturally will compensate by overdeveloping her own. She is not only being masculine for herself, now she’s being masculine for you. If she’s got to remind you of the job interview or the mess in the garage, she’s supplying the masculine direction for the both of you. And this results in stress. Her body will begin to show it. She will become less radiant and less relaxed in her feminine power and glory because she has to compensate for your failure.

You may take on your woman’s purposes because they are stronger than yours. You may adapt your need for direction to externally regulated purposes, becoming a cogwheel company man or a dead-ended husband and parent, without leaving yourself open to your own greatest vision. Be careful not to substitute default