This is a key issue for people who get nervous about meeting new people and wonder about what to say. They think too much about what to say and how to say it when the real goal is to get to know someone or get to know someone better. The conversation is a means to an end not the end itself. If the goal of a conversation is to get to know someone then establishing a connection is what it's all about. To do this you need to know and like whoever you are talking to and this in turn is driven by curiosity. When you want to know someone's opinions, feelings and perspective that curiosity
