Popular people on the other hand do the very opposite. They decide what they'd like to do and find some friends who would enjoy the same activity. This way the instigator knows he will have a good time and looks forward to the event, socializing becomes fun and he wants to do more of it not avoid it. The key is to sometimes be the one who takes charge and leads everyone else, by doing this you get to be the one who designs the day out or evening with friends, once you get the hang of this you'll see socializing as the high point of the week not as a series of boring events you'd rather miss.
