Always Know What To Say - Easy Ways To Approach And Talk To Anyone

by Peter W. Murphy

The key is to look for emotional issues, strongly desired goals or highly charged problems. When you find those by listening carefully and pointing out your similar experiences and feelings about the issue it can create a deep connection with the other person.

People with lots of good friends look to the future. They see social functions as the ideal opportunity to meet their friends and to make new friends not just for right now but for years to come.

Popular people already know that the happiest times in their lives typically involve their friends and family. They cultivate great friendships and make a point of getting to know new people.

Spending time with people who like you and care about you is essential for your well being while meeting like minded people keeps you connected to all the joy, variety and wonder of life.

A better way to look at meeting people is to look for matches, that is to look for people you have something in common with instead of wanting to be liked by everyone.

Often, where it's an option, it's better to skip events you don't want to attend but don't pretend you don’t want to go because of fear.

So, you can see why selecting the right people to talk to is more important than having something to talk about

the point is they choose to be flexible about what they can and will talk about so that they can talk to just about anyone.

When you want to know someone's opinions, feelings and perspective that curiosity drives the conversation and makes the connection happen.

Quiet people rarely if ever lead the social group. They prefer to stay in the background, agree with the consensus opinion and do anything to avoid rocking the boat. This is not a bad course of action most of the time but if you never express your own opinions and never, ever lead the group then you may become taken for granted.

Whatever you do, don't push to be more of a leader and driver of the group than you want to be, find a balance between being involved and suiting your quiet personality.

making conversation with someone you don't know is all about discovering if this person is a good match, a potential long term friend.

If you'll make a point of having a ready supply of current topic to discuss and if you'll practice at home before you go out to socialize you'll get better and better over time.

If you feel happy, relaxed and positive then it’s much easier to talk freely and confidently without self doubt tripping you up.

When that realization hits you it becomes obvious that almost everyone else is just like you, stuck in that passive attitude of waiting for someone else to make the first move.

It’s only when you take a minute each day to consider ten people you are grateful for that you’ll see what this can do for you.