The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

by Miguel Ruiz

Teotihuacan, the ancient city of pyramids outside Mexico City known as the place where “Man Becomes God.”

A Toltec is an artist of Love, an artist of the Spirit, someone who is creating every moment, every second, the most beautiful art — the Art of Dreaming.

Life is nothing but a dream, and if we are artists, then we can create our life with Love, and our dream becomes a masterpiece of art.

“I knew I could not expect the Master to come to this humble home. Although he said he would come, something more important must have taken him elsewhere. The Master did not come, but at least he told me he would, and that is enough for my heart to be happy.”

Whatever you do for others, you do for me.”

The Master loved him so much that he had sent three people to give him the greatest lesson: The Master lives within everyone.

We are masters because we have the power to create and to rule our own lives.

You have the power to create. Your power is so strong that whatever you believe comes true. You create yourself, whatever you believe you are.

Your whole reality, everything you believe, is your creation. You

You practice for years and years, and you achieve the level of mastery to be what you believe you are.

To become masters of love, we have to practice love.

human mind is sick with a disease called fear.

The way humans relate to each other is so emotionally painful that for no apparent reason we get angry, jealous, envious, sad.

even say “I love you” can be frightening.

We wear a social mask because it’s too painful to see ourselves or to let others see us as we really are.

You no longer need to protect yourself. You are not afraid to love, to share, to open your heart.

turn their attention to the moment again, to play again, to explore and have fun again. They are living in the moment.

Little children express what they feel, and they are not afraid to love.

The need to be accepted is born.

We learn to pretend to be what we are not, and we practice trying to be someone else, just to be good enough

when she is alone, she has another image of herself.

hates himself; he feels that he is so stupid, that he is the worst. There is a big discrepancy between the inner image and the image he tries to project to the outside world.

When we are children, we learn that everyone’s opinions are important,

Humans by nature are very sensitive beings. We are so emotional because we perceive everything with the emotional body.

The normal frequency of humans before domestication is to explore and to enjoy life; we are tuned to love.

The alarm system for the emotional body is fear.

You feel sensitive; it hurts and makes you cry.

Shyness is the fear of expressing yourself.

Everyone around the world is hunting the attention of others all the time.

Judge is judging everything we do, everything we don’t do, everything we feel, everything we don’t feel.

Sometimes the little child inside you comes out — the real you

energy attracts the same kind of energy, the same vibration.

Life brings to you exactly what you need.

“What humans call ‘love’ is nothing but a fear relationship based on control.

I know that even if I find someone else, it’s going to be the same, because love doesn’t exist. There is no sense to look around for something that doesn’t exist. That is why I am crying.”

love doesn’t exist. We look for love, we open our heart and we become vulnerable, just to find selfishness.

Happiness never comes from outside of us. He was happy because of the love coming out of him; she was happy because of the love coming out of her.

No matter how much the woman loved him, she could never make him happy because she could never know what he had in his mind. She could never know what his expectations were, because she could not know his dreams.

It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.

We make all those promises that we cannot keep, and we set ourselves up to fail.

Compassion comes from respect and from love; feeling sorry comes from a lack of respect and from fear.

Trying to avoid responsibility is one of the biggest mistakes we make because every action has a consequence. Everything we think, everything we do, has a consequence.

Love is always kind. Fear is always unkind.

If you are in the track of love, you have no obligations, no expectations.

Love is unconditional. Fear is full of conditions.

In the track of love, there is no if; there are no conditions. I love you for no reason, with no justification. I love you the way you are, and you are free to be the way you are.

We don’t have the right to change anyone else, and no one else has the right to change us. If we are going to change, it is because we want to change,

there is no way you can be responsible for what is inside another person’s head. You can never know what that person feels, what that person believes, all the assumptions she makes.

Just by seeing where you are, just by changing your attention, everything around you will change.

The only way to master love is to practice love. You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love; you just need to practice your love.