The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

by Miguel Ruiz

The dog loves you unconditionally.

You know the kind of man or woman that you want? The one who makes your heart sing, the one who is aligned with the way you are, the one who loves you just as you are.

First you have to know what you want, how you want it, when you want it.

know exactly what the needs of your body are, what the needs of your mind are, and what fits well with you.

first you will need to take a step back. You have to accept yourself and love yourself just the way you are.

Give your partner the opportunity to find what she really wants, and at the same time give yourself the opportunity.

aim for a new beginning by cutting your ties with the past and starting all over again. You don’t have to have attachments to the past.

Have the courage to go for it 100 percent or let it go. Let go of the past and begin every day at a higher level of love.

if one of you has a bad moment or an emotional crisis, your agreement is to allow each other to be what you are. Then the relationship is another story; it’s another way of being, and the whole thing can be very beautiful.

You are going to love her and accept her with all of her garbage. You are going to respect her garbage.

Heal your half, and you are going to be happy. If you can heal that part of you, then you are going to be ready for a relationship without fear, without need.

More than sex, it’s about being together.

Sex becomes a communion; sex becomes a complete surrendering, a dance, an art, a supreme expression of beauty.

You have an abundance of love in your heart.

You have love not just for yourself, but for the whole world. You love so much that you don’t need anyone’s love.

no need to go around the world begging for love: “Please, someone love me. I’m so lonely, I’m not good enough for love; I need someone to love me, to prove that I’m worthy of love.”

At some point in our life, we became afraid to love, because we believed love isn’t fair. Love hurts.

We want “someone who needs me” in order to justify our existence,

What we call love — someone who needs me, someone who cares about me — isn’t love; it is selfishness.

We search for love outside ourselves when love is all around us. Love is everywhere, but we don’t have the eyes to see.

We are so afraid to love because it isn’t safe to love. The fear of rejection frightens us.

Just because someone rejects you doesn’t mean you have to reject yourself.

You have to focus on the most wonderful relationship you can have: the relationship with yourself.

It is not about being selfish; it is about self-love.

You are complete. When love is coming out of you, you are not searching for love because you are afraid to be alone.

That person may claim to love you, but is it really love? If we love, we want the best for those we love.

People learn to become selfish and to close their hearts so tightly. They are starving for love, not knowing that the heart is a magical kitchen.

Your heart is a magical kitchen. Open your heart.

In your heart is all the love you need. Your heart can create any amount of love, not just for yours...

What makes you happy is love coming out of you. And if you are generous with your love, everyone is going to love you.

our heart is a magical kitchen, we are always generous, and our love is completely unconditional.

It’s your reactions that make you so unhappy or make you so happy.

Your reactions are the key to having a wonderful life.

Your life is the manifestation of your personal dream.

We have a little ego that takes everything personally, that makes us overreact.

we need to take risks, and if we fail, so what? Who cares? It doesn’t matter. We learn and we move on without judgment.

we start talking about our suffering, and we understand each other very well. We even start to enjoy it. We understand each other perfectly because we vibrate in the same frequency.

If you don’t fit that image of beauty, you grow up believing that you’re not worthy, that no one will like you.

At a certain time in our lives, we cannot avoid feeling sexual attraction. This is completely normal; it is not a problem at all.

You feel a strong attraction; the body feels the attraction.

just thinking of him makes your hormones go up again.

Because of the powerful memory that’s in the mind, it’s as if your body is seeing him again.

When you try to repress your mind, guess what? You think about it more.

You hurt, but you try to deny your feelings; you try to justify your actions to avoid the emotional pain.

When the need is in the mind, you cannot satisfy the need.

What the mind really needs is love, not sex.

More than the mind, it’s your soul that needs love, because your mind can survive with fear. Fear

The mind says, “I am the body. I am what I see; I am what I think; I am what I feel.

You find out that what you are is a force — a force that makes it possible for your body to live, a force that makes it possible for your whole mind to dream.

What you really are is that force that is Life.