How To Be A 3% Man, Winning The Heart Of The Woman Of Your Dreams

by Corey Wayne

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You need to raise her comfort level, and at the same time, find out everything there is to know about her. You have to show her that you want to know everything about her. Listen to what she says. You will be tested. She wants to know that you are listening to her. This is an important point with women, whether you first meet her, you are on a date, or you are in a long-term relationship. Women tend to remember every detail, while these same details tend to escape men.

Getting back to what I said earlier, when a guy meets a woman, he can instantly have a really high level of attraction to her. Women take a lot longer to fall in love. A woman needs to trust a guy before she will open herself up to even the possibility of committing her emotions. A man is basically ready to make love at the drop of a hat, and his emotions are instantly engaged. For a woman, romance is the whole experience of the dating. It’s about the mysterious love story unfolding, just like in a book.

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I like to meet out for a drink first. Why? If you decide you don’t like her, it’s easy to leave. If things go well, then you can order appetizers and maybe dinner. Have two or three places close by that you can go to if things go well. Maybe go to a second place for darts, to shoot pool, a wine bar, bowling, miniature golf, etc. If she has a high level of comfort, and you’re sure you really like her, you can pick her up at her place like a gentleman. You can open the car door. You can take her to some place fun. The higher her attraction and comfort, the more likely you’ll be able to simply go pick her up like a gentleman. The lower her interest, the less she knows about you, the more standoffish she will be and the harder it will be to get to her front porch.

With smartphones and a Google Maps App installed, you should always be able to quickly find cool places to go or things to see. If you take a woman to 2-3 different places in one evening, it’s like the experience of multiple dates on one night. Why? Most guys go to dinner and then take her home. The average woman will sleep with a guy after 2-3 dates. Give them a fun experience at multiple places close to one another in the same evening, and you will dramatically increase your chances of scoring quickly.

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Women Are Like Cats, Men Are Like Dogs No matter what you do with a dog, he is man’s best friend. A dog will never leave you, no matter what happens. Dogs will come right up and demand attention from anyone, even a friendly-looking stranger that appeals to them. They don’t understand the concept of rejection if a stranger pushes them away. They will come right back for more. Dogs will feel an instant attraction, an instant affection for a total stranger, and run around obeying commands at the drop of a hat.

Women are like cats. They come and go as they please… and… YOU MUST LET THEM!!! If you don’t, you will destroy their level of safety and comfort with you. They do what they want, when they want, and with whom they want. You can call a cat, but it will only come to you if it feels like it. Many times they will give you that bored, sleepy stare that says: Who do you think you’re kidding? Cats look around a crowded room of strangers and will go only to the one they feel comfortable being with, the one they know for certain will give them the affection they want.

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Cats are a lot more particular about who they will give their affection to. For some strange reason, they will even decide that the only person in the room that doesn’t like cats is the only one deserving of their attention. Don’t take it personally. When a woman leaves a conversation or your group, let her go. If you go after her, she will feel your weakness, instead of your strength. When you don’t chase, she will come back, as long as her attraction is high. When a woman senses weakness in a man, they will become flakey and unsure. When they leave and you don’t chase, they will later feel attraction and come back.

In order to entice a cat to your side, you have to be patient and let it come to you. If your moves are too sudden, too quick, or too aggressive, you will send the cat fleeing from your side and into hiding. Cats have to be encouraged. They let you know when it’s okay to touch them by rubbing up against you, or coming over to sit in your lap. If you don’t hold the cat properly or pet it the wrong way, it will leave. Once that happens, it becomes twice as hard to coax it back to you.

Until the cat is coming to you and letting you know it is okay to engage it, you have to stand fast and hold your ground. No matter what the cat does, or how it tests you, you need to be indifferent. You need to let it not meeting your expectations roll off of you, as though it does not bother you, or that you could care less one way or another what it does.

Women are very much like cats. You have to get to the point where no matter what a woman does, it doesn’t move you off center. You cannot move quickly or be too aggressive. You also have to treat the beautiful woman just like you would treat the woman you have absolutely no interest in. It is not about being rude to her, but you have to not let her beauty affect you. Like the cat, she is drawn to the one that seems to be least affected by her. Women, and men for that matter, are naturally attracted to the most dominant members of the opposite sex.

You have to show a woman that you are a mystery. You have to be a strong man who does what he wants and marches to the beat of his own drum. You have to be indifferent to all of the testing she puts you through. She may act as though she is turned off by something, but nine times out of ten, she is testing to make sure that you are this presence that they feel. They use playful intimidation to see if you cave or change your opinion to match theirs. If she walks away, who cares? The chances are high that she will come back. If not, move on.

Women in part do want the guy that will do the wining and dining and romance thing once they have hit that emotional level. They don’t need it so much before their emotions are engaged, as much as they do after their emotions are engaged. After their emotions are engaged, the romance is that masculine part of you giving them the presence that you have opened them up to receive. Before their emotions are engaged, they want to make sure that you are in your masculine. They need to trust it is safe to open up that emotional side of themselves and give you their heart. They are only going to do that once you have passed their tests. Plus, women are usually physically weaker than men. All women have a natural instinctive fear of being alone with a man who won’t stop when they ask him to. If you demonstrate through your ACTIONS that you are a man who understands how attraction works, you’ll back off when she offers resistance, but take another run at her a little while later. You should not look at her slowing things down as rejection. You should simply look at it as a temporary delay to the inevitable successful seduction.

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The height of insecurity is demonstrated in the control freak, who can also be an abusive man. Women will fall for the control freak, because they initially mistake the intent of the man’s control in the relationship. When he sets out from the start with: We’re going to do this, we’re going to do that, I’m going to pick you up at such and such a time, women will often mistake it as strength. Over time, once the woman is already emotionally committed to the relationship, the abusiveness tends to come out. People can hide who they really are for the first 90 days of a relationship.

When a guy is abusive and controlling, it is because deep inside, he is feeling needy and insecure. The only way he can fulfill his need for certainty in life, or in his relationships, is if he controls every single detail. His stance is to just say: Hey, I’m in charge, or: I make the decisions here. That’s someone who is a control freak. Over time, that relationship can turn into a very abusive one, as his fear of losing control grows when she tries to express herself.

A woman initially becomes submissive when she is with a control freak, because she sees that he is strong. Over time, she realizes that he doesn’t allow her to do anything. She will start to pull away and test, as women do, and he will react negatively because he is coming from a place of fear. He fears losing the person he loves, but the very fact that he fears it makes him become abusive in the way he operates, in an effort to exert further control.

Some guys get jealous when they are out and they see another guy looking at their woman. They get all macho and want to go beat the guy up. That guy is needy, jealous, insecure, and controlling. It tells a woman: He does not have enough confidence in his own masculinity to feel he deserves to have a woman like me. When a guy is jealous, possessive, and a control freak, usually the thing that he fears the most is exactly what is going to happen – he is going to lose her.

One of our core human needs is our need for certainty. It can be the little devil on your shoulder that tells you to over-pursue her and blow up her phone, or that you should call her every few days to make certain she is still interested. In our desire to have that certainty about how someone else feels about us, we create the feeling that we are insufficient as a person. We are looking to fulfill our need for certainty with her approval and end up creating the appearance of neediness.

What we fear in life causes us to create the very circumstances we are trying to avoid. This causes men to over-pursue and chase women away. They basically communicate through their actions, tone of voice and physiology that they do not feel like they deserve her. Eventually she has no choice but to agree.

When you go out on a date, you are there to be a gentleman a charming James Bond – not her approval-seeking servant. If you want to meet a woman and get into a relationship, you have to act as though you are already in one. You have to have that kind of confidence level, because that’s what draws women to you. It is called fake it until you make it.

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Many guys go out with a woman and think: Oh, I took her to dinner, and showed her this great time. She had fun. I am expecting to have sex at the end of the night. Instead of looking at what you are going to get out of a relationship, you should be thinking: How can I give to this person? How can I contribute to her? How can I make her life really amazing by having fun with her? When I go out with a woman, my primary goal is for her to have a good time. My contribution is to make her laugh, make her feel comfortable, and make her happy – that’s it. The feeling she feels while she is with you is what she is going to associate with you. Everything else takes care of itself. If both people are focused on what they can give to a relationship, the relationship is going to flourish. But if one or both people are focused on what they are getting out of it, it’s not a relationship. It’s a transaction. You might as well go out and get a hooker, if that is what you are looking for. If you are going to go out on a date with an expectation of having sex, go get a hooker. It is a lot cheaper, and there are no emotional attachments. If you truly want to have somebody you can share your life with, someone you can love, someone where you can enrich their life, and have fun with – that is the purpose of a relationship.

I felt as though I wanted to pull my fingernails out, as opposed to just waiting a few days to call her, or to resist the urge to ask her where I stood constantly.

It is really freeing when you go out on a date to know: Wow, all I have to do is ask the questions, and keep my answers to the questions that she asks me positive, light-hearted, be funny, be humorous, get her to laugh, and just have a good time.

If you’re not good with banter and humor, or you’re just starting out, stay away from the sexual innuendo. Why? There’s a really good chance you will say something stupid and create an awkward moment.

You should not hesitate to walk over and say hello. Google “Corey Wayne The Best Pickup Lines Ever” for some good openers to use. You should also Google “Corey Wayne Rejected? The Best Comebacks Ever” for great comebacks when a woman is playful, tests or challenges you, so you can playfully recover when things go sideways.

Here’s a great technique to create rapport and create the vibe where women will feel comfortable coming up to you when you are out at a bar, or a night club: You and whoever you are with should take your drinks and make a couple laps around the bar. Whenever you see a group of women, especially ones you are interested in, you can walk up to them and say: Hey ladies, how are you doing? At that point, hold your glass up and toast, or touch glasses together. Then ask: Are you ladies having a good time? When they reply: Yes, you are going to say: Great! Have that level of confidence and courtesy that says, without actually saying it, that you may have something to do with the club, or you may be the owner, owner’s son, or something along those lines. From there, you are going to leave and move on to the next group of ladies and do the same thing. Make a couple trips around the bar. When you come back through to the same group, just toast them again and keep on moving. Now you have shown up, toasted them and asked if they are having a good time, and then walked away. You leave them wondering: Who are those guys? They look like they’re having a good time. After that, seat yourself at one of the tables in plain view of everybody. Simply hang out with your buddies and let the women come to you. Now you have gone around the bar and have created a connection with all these groups of women. Every time you walk back by these groups of women, you have made yourself more familiar to the...

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So as you walk over to a woman, the most important thing to consider is what you are going to say. Most guys will walk up and say: Hi, my name is Corey. What’s your name? That is a blown opportunity to see whether she is interested in you or not. When you walk up to a woman that you have not met, you need to walk up and simply say: Hi. What’s your name? Wait for her response. She may say something along the lines of: My name’s Jessica. At this point, you are not going to volunteer and say: Well, my name’s Corey. When she says: My name’s Jessica, you are only going to say: Well, Jessica, it’s nice to meet you, without volunteering your name. This is the first test of you reading her level of interest. Now compare the following two responses. 1) Oh, it’s nice to meet you. 2) It’s nice to meet you. What’s your name? Which one do you think shows more interest in you – the one that wants to know your name? Or the one that just says: Nice to meet you? Nine times out of ten, the one that wants to know your name means she has a higher level of attraction. In other words, she finds you attractive or appealing. She wants to know who you are. That is a good one I learned from Doc Love. You can visit his website at doclove.com.

Your whole goal when you meet a woman is to judge her level of attraction for you. If it appears that she has a high level of attraction, then you want to get her phone number, a way to get in contact with her. You are not going to tell her that you are going to call and ask her out on a date. Just the very fact that you are asking for her phone number tells her that you are interested. She knows what that question means. A woman knows instinctively: The reason he’s asking is because he likes me. He wants to take me out. It is not necessary to volunteer and say: I’m going to call you. I want to take you out on a date. Your interest is already obvious to her just by the fact you have walked over to her and asked her for her name. The fact that you want to take her out on a date is obvious at the moment you ask for her phone number. It is common sense to the intuition of a woman. It is only guys that do not see it as common sense. This is what I am helping you to develop.

Your goal is to find out as much as you can about her, and give her as little information about yourself as possible.

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Do not ask her if she has a boyfriend. She may have a guy she is dating that she recently broke up with, or maybe she is considering breaking it off with him.

A woman that has very low interest in her current boyfriend may be just waiting until she meets someone new to break up with him. There are many women that will not break up with a boyfriend until they have a replacement.

Invite them on a date; don’t tell them, sell or ask them if they’d like to go out with you. Assume all women want you and act accordingly; even though all women aren’t going to want you, it’s a much stronger position to assume they want you rather than to sheepishly hope that they want you. It’s a subtle difference that makes a big difference in how you ask.

If a woman asks you: Do you have a girlfriend? Again, that is a sign of high attraction. How do you respond to a question like that? Do you have a girlfriend? You are not going to say: Well, I broke up with my girlfriend two years ago and I haven’t had a date since. The best response is not to say: No, I don’t have a girlfriend. When she asks: Do you have a girlfriend? Just say: I’m just dating and having a lot of fun right now… or… I’ve always got room for one more... or… Can we get to know each other a little bit better before we start talking about relationships? With a smirk on your face, of course. That can mean that you have five girlfriends. That can mean you have one. It leaves her wondering and helps to build the anticipation of what she may find out about you.

The key is that you don’t want to get hung up and hold attachments to one particular lady until she does all the things right to warrant you devoting all of your time and all of your energy to her. Guys will meet a woman, they haven’t even gone on the first date, and they already start imagining themselves married to this woman, what their kids are going to look like, all the fabulous vacations they will take as a family, what they will be doing on the first date, etc. Guys will do all this before the night they met this woman is even over. You do not really know until you call her and you take her out what her level of attraction and her emotional availability is.

In the movies they always show: You are going to meet this one woman and it is going to be this be-all, end-all relationship. I have news for guys. When you start dating, or even when you first meet somebody, what you want now and what you want a year from now may change. You may decide you want something or someone totally different. Sometimes a relationship just runs its course, and it’s time to move on. This is because when you get to that place where you know you can have any woman you want who has a high level of attraction in you to start with, and you know how to own her heart, it gives you a lot of choices. So basically, once you get her phone number or set a date, you are going to walk away from her. Unless you are going to turn your initial meeting into a first date and seduce her that night.

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Meeting women is a numbers game. Some women are not going to like you, and some women are. You have to be indifferent about it and not let it get to you.