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Corey Wayne
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October 22 - October 22, 2023
The more beautiful a woman is – the more guys she has that act that way. She wants a guy that is going to stand out. She wants him to be more of a man than she is. The more beautiful woman she is, the more choices that she has. If she goes out on an average weekend, she might give her phone number out to 10 or 12 different guys. Predictably, what happens is that 9 or 10 of those guys are going to call her the very next day and ask her to go out on a date. From that point, she can basically decide which ones she wants to go out with, or if she wants to go out with any of them at all.
Most guys, even if they do manage to get the phone number of a woman that they are interested in, can’t seem to manage to get to her front porch or meet up for that all important first date. If they do go out on a date, they can’t seem to ever get another one with the same woman. On the other hand, the girls that they don’t really have much interest in are calling and chasing them. They are pursuing them, and really want to be with them. The simple answer is that you basically have to treat the ones you do like just like the ones you don’t like.
Their attitude is… why fight? We’re in this together. It’s about meeting each other’s needs and enjoying each other.
The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the people you consistently spend your time with. That’s something to think about!
If you are with your lady, you should either be holding her hand or walking side by side with her as a true equal.
What do you want to do, honey? Oh, I don’t know, honey, what do you want to do? Women don’t want control! They want the man to make the decisions and make the plans. Women just want to show up for a date looking hot, have fun and have the man lead things successfully into the bedroom.
Women just want to be able to go out, relax, completely get in their feminine side, and just let the guy take total control. All a guy really needs to focus on when dating is hang out, have fun and hook up. Hang out: make a definite date in the evening that can potentially lead to you having sex at her place or yours later in the evening. Have fun: keep things funny and positive with no complicated situations or subjects; just do something fun. Hook up: go for the kiss. Kissing leads to heavy petting, which leads to you saying something like, “hey, let’s get out of here, grab a bottle of wine
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Women are about opening up and receiving your love and presence. That is the feminine energy. The masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, direction, and mission in life. The masculine energy is also about breaking through barriers.
Between men and women, the woman opens up and receives. She is physically designed to receive a man. She is penetrated in every way by her man: emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. And a man in every way penetrates the world and his woman. So the more you give to your lady, the more she wants from you. By only calling/texting her once a week for one date in the beginning per week, you create the conditions for her to start calling and texting you more and more. After the 2nd or 3rd date when she starts contacting you first, because she does not want to wait until next week to
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Women want to be noticed. Everything they do is about getting your attention. That’s why it is so important to understand this.
I told him: Your sole purpose for being in that relationship is to give to her. So you either need to give to her, or go out and get yourself a hooker. That way you can have a transactional based relationship with no emotional attachments.
When women feel heard and understood, the legs open. When they don’t, the legs close.
Again, it is all about knowing who you are, knowing what you want, being in your center, and understanding your woman.
Women and men look for love in different ways. Many guys, by the second or third date are saying: I love you. Women are responding with reservation, either inwardly or outwardly saying: What? You don’t even know me yet. Thich Nhat Hanh says that, "You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free." When a guy starts professing his love after only a few dates and starts putting out the relationship vibe, it’s simply inappropriate and out of sequence. Women are emotional beings and they get scared when a guy tries to get too serious too soon by focusing on relationship labels or
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Commitment, bonding and being together 24/7 happens slowly over several months as the woman’s level of attraction for you grows. When she’s ready for a relationship or a commitment, she’ll bring it up. If she’s not bringing it up, it means she’s not at that point yet. Simply continue to focus on hanging out, having fun and hooking up when you are together. Slowly over time, she won’t want to be with anyone else other than you. If you try to force or rush the process, she will reject you, friend zone you or ghost you.
If a guy meets a woman, is talking to her, and thinks she is very beautiful, many times he will look past a lot of other qualities that he may not like, just because he is visually stimulated.
A guy will have an instant reaction to a woman and say things like: Oh, wow. I’m going to marry her. Guys connect physically and, in an instant, can engage their emotions. Women take longer. They warm up more slowly to a reaction of interest. A woman needs to understand who the guy is before she will enter into that emotional reaction, and often before she will engage physically.
Women go out on first dates with the attitude of just seeing what happens. The guy tends to be focused on making her his girlfriend and possessing her, instead of just letting the love story develop.
To a woman, when a guy is engaging his emotions at the beginning of the relationship, without taking the time to get to know who she is first, he seems needy. Because of the way women deal with emotions and love, they can’t quite comprehend the man’s instantaneous emotional response. It makes her leery and uncomfortable. She doesn’t feel safe with him, because he is not in his masculine. Guys who are needy tend to act like creepy stalkers. All women have met guys like this in the past, and most know how to spot the control freaks, stalkers and needy guys.
Women understand men far better than men understand women. She knows when a guy is interested, because she has taken the time to develop this sense. Guys don’t have this advantage. They don’t know what to look for, and will often project their own attraction level on to the woman, totally clueless of where she is really at.
The whole process that I will be taking you through in this book helps a man to develop the same sense of awareness a woman has. So you give a woman the space to fall for you and come to you at her own pace to the point that she thinks it’s her idea.
When a guy meets a woman, he will often start right in about having a relationship, dating, where he’s going to take her out on a date, and so forth. To the woman, this is a complete anti-mystery. The man doesn’t even have her information yet, and he’s already telling her everything he is going to do, where he is going to take her, and what he likes to do with women. This does nothing to build any anticipation. He is laying himself in her hands like an open book, saying: Here is everything there is to know about me. It takes away all the mystery and challenge from her. Women want to be in a
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When a guy starts talking about relationships, dating, marriage, and other things of this sort, it makes a woman feel as though he is being needy, and he is smothering her. They want to move away from that scene as fast as possible. Before you can start getting into declarations of love, you need to make a woman feel comfortable. She has to feel safe. You need to make her feel that she can be totally in her feminine and relax, without having to keep her guard up against your next move. The best way to do this is with laughter.
You are trying to engage her and, at the same time, gauge her attraction level for you. The goal is to find out if this woman is really someone you even want to go out with. If you joke around with her, or you tease her and she’s nasty to you – who cares? You are probably never going to see this woman again anyway, so what does it matter? If she doesn’t respond to your jokes, or doesn’t think you are funny, you don’t want to spend your time with her. You should always come from the place and assume that all women want you.
By banter and joke, I mean that you always need to be prepared to respond with a light-hearted, non-serious answer. If she says: Do you have a girlfriend? You might respond with: “I always have room for one more. Are you asking me out? Wow, you’re really forward,” etc., keeping a smile on your face. If she says: Well, I think you’re a jerk. Don’t argue with her. You simply need to come back with something less serious, and an “I don’t care” attitude, such as: Why, thank you for noticing! You need to shrug it off.
Remember that you are a strong, centered guy. Something like this should not push you off your center. When you are in your place of confidence, she will often read it as funny, but cocky. Google “Corey Wayne How To Be Cocky & Charming To Get Laid” and “Dominant Behavior… Gets You Laid.” She wants to see if you really are what you are putting out there. She is going to test you to see if she can push you off that center of confidence. She is looking for your reaction, to FEEL your strength. If you just blow it off, you are confirming to her that you really are as confident as you portray. You
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You should be friendly to EVERYONE everywhere you go. Treat all women the same. Why? Because repetition is the mother of skill. "Excellence is not a singular act but a habit. You are what you do repeatedly." ~ Aristotle.
Google “Corey Wayne Improving Your Social Skills” and “Corey Wayne The Process Of Improving Your Social Skills” and “Practicing Your Social Skills” and “Be Friendly To Everyone.”
Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure.” ~ Confucius.
One suggestion I would like to make is go to the mall and banter with women you don’t have any interest in at all. Joke and tease with them to develop your skills. What happens is when you start talking, teasing, joking and being humorous with a lot of different women, is that you get in the habit of doing it. When you come across a woman you are really interested in, you can just be natural.
Go at your own pace. Start out by walking around the mall and making eye contact and smiling at people who look you in the eye and smile. Women who are single, friendly, available and who like you will look you in the eye and smile. That is their invitation to approach. Women who are married or in a relationship, who have a bad attitude, who are unavailable, etc., will simply ignore you and act like you are invisible. They will not look at you, even though you know they can tell you are making eye contact. That makes it really easy. Only approach women who are friendly, smile at you and make
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Once you get bored with that, you can simply take the next step and say something like, “Hi! How are you? How’s your day going? What are you ladies up to?” etc. By asking questions and for their opinions on anything and everything, they will do most of the talking, and you can simply say, “I’ve gotta run, but it was nice chatting with you! Have a great day!” as you walk away and end the conversation. Once that is easy and boring for you, then simply close with, “Hey, I gotta run, but I would like to talk to you some more. What’s your phone number?” as you look down at your phone expecting to
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Sometimes I will go out, and a woman I’m interested in will look over. I will sometimes stick my tongue out at her. It usually catches her off guard. She may stick her tongue back out at me. This tells me she is willing to be playful, and that she is interested. Other times, I might motion with my finger for her to come over. She will often motion back for me to come to her. I won’t do it. I will simply shake my head and motion her back to me. I am letting her know that she has to come to me. If she doesn’t, I will just shrug and ignore her. Nine times out of ten, before five minutes have
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Watch her reactions to your joking around. If you are telling really stupid, corny jokes and she’s laughing, even though you know that they’re not really funny, it tells you she is interested. It’s a measure of your success at making her feel comfortable, which is exactly what you need to do. A woman has a higher level of attraction to a man she can have fun with and that can make her feel comfortable. If you are being too serious with her from the start, worrying about dating, relationships and labels, then you may be engaging your emotions too fast for her. It is a signal for her to back
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Compliments: From the Beginning Another thing that can have a negative effect on a woman’s attraction level is compliments, especially if she is beautiful. If she is beautiful, then she has been told just that since she was five years old. She doesn’t need you telling her. She knows it. She sees herself every day in the mirror. There are probably 15 people she meets every day that tell her how beautiful she is. Even if it doesn’t have a negative impact, complimenting a woman you just met for the first time is not going to raise her attraction level in you, unless you do it properly.
Many guys who are just learning to use what I teach will often get nervous and say, “You have really nice nails.” Then they will say, “You have really nice hair.” Then they might compliment her on what she is wearing or some other BS compliment. What happens is their nervousness overwhelms their ability to act natural and say what’s really on their mind. What happens is that, instead of communicating their interest in a masculine way, they come off as robotic, uncomfortable, inauthentic, ass-kissy, phony and basically trying to use compliments as a bribe for sex. The woman feels a weird,
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If you’re going to compliment a woman, say what you’re really thinking and feeling. These are some of the things I say to women based upon how they make me feel inside: “You take my breath away. You’re intoxicating to look at. I want you. You’re sexy as hell. You have a fucking unbelievable body!” etc. Obviously, for the average guy, it will take him some time to build up to being able to say these types of things fearlessly. Go at your own pace and comfort level.
When a woman gets compliments from a guy she just met, she starts thinking: He’s just saying whatever he needs to say. That makes her feel as though she can’t trust you. You come off as a pleaser, which is weak in her eyes. Her guard will instantly go up.
When a guy has found a woman he is prepared to talk to, the first thought in his mind should be: My goal here is to make her smile. That’s it. Women are emotional beings. He should be in that space of feeling confident in who he is, and that he is giving her a great opportunity by coming up to speak to her. If she doesn’t like him, blows him off, or treats him harshly, it shouldn’t matter. Therefore, if you make her feel good by getting her to laugh, she will associate you with feeling good. We will get to more of this in the section on taking rejection personally, but the man should view it
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Google “Corey Wayne Seeking Her Approval Causes Rejection.”
Too many men get hung up on singling out one woman to devote his attentions to. There is no scarcity of women out there. You should be concerned with finding one that does have a high level of attraction, and stop wasting your time with one that doesn’t have any interest in you at all. In my coaching practice, that is one of the biggest mistakes I see guys make – getting hung up on a woman who does not reciprocate interest.
When we get hung-up on one woman only who has not earned it through her actions, we are either acting needy, due to a scarcity mindset and fear of loss, or this is the pattern of how we unconsciously sabotage our own success to avoid a relationship altogether by fixating on someone who is unavailable or uninterested.
As a matter of fact, from a purely numerical standpoint, there are more beautiful, single women in the world than you could ever possibly ask out. What you want is out there. Not only that, what you want also wants you, but you have to be in the game to score.
Busy, successful men communicate abundance. They come from a place of abundance. If things don't work out with one girl, it’s no big deal. There is another bus every 15 minutes.
Google “Corey Wayne Indifference Makes The Difference With Women” and “Corey Wayne The Attraction Of Indifference.”
When you decide to approach a woman, you are going up to find out if she is interested in you. If she is, you are going to want to get her contact information, or make a date right on the spot. If she’s not, then you are going to want to move on and find somebody that is.
Guys will sit and talk all night to one woman, trying to raise her level of attraction. They completely ignore the fac...
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If your wife or girlfriend is uninterested in sex or always has trouble getting wet, when before she was always initiating sex and always dripping wet any time you put your hands down her pants, this is the sign of a woman who does not feel safe and comfortable in the relationship. It means that she may be angry with you, have low interest, you may have done something to hurt her, etc.
Here’s how to handle situations when women violate your boundaries: Google “Corey Wayne When She Pisses You Off.”
Your job as a man is to recognize when your woman shuts down to you, so you can open her back up to you through communication. Ask her what's wrong. Tell her she seems a little distant, and that you want to know what's in her heart. Say things like… “Tell me more. Don't leave anything out. I want to understand where you are coming from. What else?” etc. You will know when you’ve gotten to the root cause of the issue and have resolved it to her satisfaction. She will give a sigh of relief and probably say… “I feel so much better! I'm so glad we talked! I love you.” Until you hear those words,
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