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Dec 14, 2010 Marla rated it it was ok

Shelves: chick-lit, romance, award-winner, challenged, zz-2013, time-travel, with-reservations, made-me-cry, young-adult, paranormal

2 stars for unlikable characters, but 4 stars for making them real enough to despise or evoke sympathy. Samantha Kingston and her popular girlfriends, Lindsay, Elody and Ally, are not run-of-the-mill mean girls, they are exceptionally cruel and delinquent girls: drinking, smoking, bullying, cutting school, and sleeping around.

1st day: If this book was more of the same, I wouldn't have bothered, but then it wouldn't have won any awards, so I am sticking with it (but I always finish books I start 2 stars for unlikable characters, but 4 stars for making them real enough to despise or evoke sympathy. Samantha Kingston and her popular girlfriends, Lindsay, Elody and Ally, are not run-of-the-mill mean girls, they are exceptionally cruel and delinquent girls: drinking, smoking, bullying, cutting school, and sleeping around.

1st day: If this book was more of the same, I wouldn't have bothered, but then it wouldn't have won any awards, so I am sticking with it (but I always finish books I start, so I really have no choice). It's like Mean Girls but meaner with a deja vu spin.

Finished: I don't really understand all the accolades and rave reviews for this book. Anyone who has been the subject of bullying will despise these 4 girls and wish them ill. Sam and her friends are horrible and sadly believable. Story was well written and was realistic, but I just couldn't tolerate the unchecked cruelty. By the end of the story, I didn't despise Sam, but I still wasn't fond of her. Probably the reason this book won awards was because of the depth of the characters, the emotional impact and the discussions that this story generates.

Sam doesn't seem to really reform, but maybe she has changed as much as she is capable. She's still flawed but trying. In my experience, short of movie starlets and royalty, no one gets the adulation and preferred treatment that these girls seem to inspire. Though I wondered if people looking admiringly at her and basking in her attention were figments of Sam's self-centered imagination.

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Sam obsessing over sleeping with her handsome, popular, jerky jock boyfriend is annoying, but why should she punish him for her superficial desire to date him? Rob was one of the few poorly defined characters in the story. Sam sort of sees Lindsay for who she really is on the third day, but it was hate her or love her and Sam chooses to be Lindsay's friend rather than be an outsider. The interactions with the teacher were creepy. There were no consequences and barely any remorse for cheating and ruining the other girl's academic reputation. Even the parking space encounter ended up being partially the other girl's own fault that she was running late. So the victims weren't necessarily innocent which I think is a disturbed message to send. Sam's friends, especially Lindsay, didn't ever consider anyone else's feelings or the psychological torture they were inflicting.

I liked her childhood friend, Kent. Kent's character was loyal and very authentic. Kent still liked Sam in spite of her faults. I wish we could've seen a book with a romance between Sam and Kent that wasn't destined for failure.

Poor Kent, his crush finally notices him and then she dies. He is going to be messed up, I think I would've liked her better if she considered his feelings and didn't make out with him on the last day, though at least she didn't seduce him. I'm glad that Sam let Kent rescue her.

I liked the lesson of the consequences of drinking and driving and also "harmless" bullying, but it was not enough to redeem this book for me. I also like the premise of reliving the same day, ala Groundhog Day. I liked the Last Day and all the lasts. Sam's right that most people would like a chance to live their last day with purpose and appreciation. I'm glad she didn't "just be done with it" with Rob. And at least Sam realizes that she is a bitch and I'm glad that she was sweet to her sister, Izzy. Sam also comes to understand that she can only change her own actions. I thought the ending was well done. But the story was a case of too little, too late and just not worth it for me.
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I subscribe to the theory if you do nothing while your friends are cruel to people, then you are also to blame. My very wise mother said: You don't have to be friends with everyone, in fact, you don't even have to be nice to everyone, but you cannot be mean.

I wasn't a mean girl or a bully, maybe if I identified more with one side or the other I would've rated this book more highly.

With-reservations:
bullying, assault, suicide, sexual discussions, alcohol, drugs, cutting school, language

Super Spoilers - Synopsis
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1st Day: Cupid Day, mean rose to Juliet Sykes, couple breaks up after Lindsay interferes, Rob throws up, torment Juliet Sykes and accident

2nd Day: late so no parking space, Rob doesn't understand anything and doesn't come back after 5 minutes, Kent does care

3rd Day: sick so goes to school late, catch teacher's tryst, other girl caught cheating, don't go to party, sleepover at Ally's house, Juliet shoots herself

4th Day: tells Lindsay off and becomes social outcast, encounter with Mr. Daimler - Calculus teacher, tosses all her roses, smokes weed with Anna Cartullo in bathroom, trades hooker shoes for steel-toed boots, shopping spree with PUGS, remembers Lindsay's NYC trip and bathroom incident, finds a room with Rob, Kent finds her crying

5th Day: stays home sick, spends her day with Izzy, goes to dinner with family, sneaks out to go to Juliet's house, Juliet jumps in front of Lindsay's car and Kent helps Lindsay get through it

6th Day: doesn't give Rob a rose and gives Juliet a bouquet of roses, scubs off AC=WC, designated driver, humiliates Rob, learns what happened between Lindsay and Juliet, Juliet jumps in front of a random van, Kent takes her home, first kiss

7th Day: gives Izzy Grandmother's necklace, only keep Kent's rose, gives rest to Marian Sykes, gives Kent a rose, gives Juliet a rose, breaks up with Rob, gives Anna an Escher book, gets rescued by Kent, kisses Kent, saves Juliet

Should've used 5 stages and just had 5 "groundhog" days: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. (7 stages of Grief: Shock & Denial; Pain & Guilt; Anger & Bargaining; Depression & Loneliness; Upward Turn (adjusting); Reconstruction & Working Through; and Acceptance.)

And a quote for fun...p. 62
He's not very good with bras. He's not that good with breasts in general, actually. I mean, it's not like I really know what it's supposed to feel like, but every time he touches my boobs he kind of just massages them hard in a circle. My gyno does the same thing when I go in for an exam, so one of them has to be doing it wrong. And to be honest, I don't think it's my gyno.
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Dec 28, 2009 Sarah Dizon rated it really liked it

Shelves: young-adult, read-in-2011, 4-stars

I don't remember what I thought this book was about when I picked it up but whatever it was, the book is completely different.

I struggled getting into the book only because of Sam's attitude and the attitude of her friends. They were rude, mean, and conceited. Yet, the best part of the book is Sam's evolution from who she was at the beginning to who she is at the end.

At first I didn't understand why she kept re-living the same day over and over again but then it makes complete sense at the end. ...more

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Apr 26, 2010 Liz rated it really liked it

Shelves: young-adult, 2010-book-list

Although this book is classified as YA, I would consider it more for older young adults - there are definitely some mature elements in it.
I was unsure of this book at many points while reading, but the more I thought about it & its message, the more I liked it. This one really gives the reader a lot to ponder, & I found myself reevaluating how I personally live my life: the way I interact with others, how I treat my family, how I spend my time. If I could, I would rate this 4.5 stars.

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Dec 20, 2010 Lori rated it really liked it

I don't know what to say. I enjoyed this book very much. But I am a happy ending kind of reader and I was unhappy with the way this one ended. ...more

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