Shanetta’s Comments (group member since Oct 28, 2011)

Shanetta’s comments from the Reading Between the Wines group.

I think the only problem with that is everyone has different schedules and different time zones. But I do believe we need to figure out who is really active members so we can know who we need to wait on before we discuss the books and how much time people need to finish a book.

For, me I believe we should figure out how long we want a discussion to go. Should we discuss a book for one week to give everyone a chance to respond.

Rickele wrote: "I do blame her husband too because he was so focused on getting his business to grow that he failed to realize that his home was falling apart."

It seem like he was all about His business because even when she asked for help he had a problem coming home early to give a helping hand so she can better herself as well. It wasn't like she wasn't working but she was working, going to school, and taking care of the kids all on her own. At times I felt like she was alone and even when he did attempt to come around it was like to little to late.

Kim wrote: "Personally I never think that there is a reason to cheat. If you're not willing to work on the relationship to get it to where you want it to be then you need to get out of it. Everyone goes throug..."

I agree her decision effected her whole family and her decision to stay in a lonely marriage without trying many different avenues to make it work hurts the family as well. The worst thing any women can do in my opinion is to stay in any relationship because of the children. Kids are very smart and they see and feel the tension and it hurts them even more. I believe Jess best decision would have been to either take a temp. seperation so that both could reflect on what they wanted or she should have left. I feel like cheating is the easy way out.

I do not believe it was a valid reason for her to cheat but I can sympathize with her losing herself as woman in feeling lonely because her husband was to busy with work and putting her needs second instead of putting them first so in a why I do blame her husband because it wasn't like she wasn't expressing her needs to him. She expressed her feeling but he was to busy to fulfill his wife needs. They both lost sight of their marriage. I feel if she if the need to cheat she should had divorce him not cheated!!

Do anyone believe Jess had a valid reason to cheat?Was her husband to blame?

For me the most shocking part of the book was the turn it took and it wasn't no more about a lonely woman needing her needs met than it went into a predator that preys on lonely married women that has been raised to think women are nothing but a sea of whores!!

Okay Ladies, It's been a little over two weeks and we've been reading "Truth or Dare" and now it's time to discuss!!!

We are just going to use the book questions as our guide:

What was your most shocking moment in the book?

Ladies, we have completed week one of the book club and even though it says we have 8 members, it is also showing that all of us are not active members. If you have any questions, ideas, or comments about the book or the club please us the discussion board.


I know a few of us have completed the boook and would like to start discussing the book so that we may move on to our next book. The problem is we are not sure if everyone is finish reading the first book.

So if you have completed the first book please post the book as currently read and a review or rating so that we can discuss and begin our second book.

Also please let us know if you need more time to complete the book.

I had a chance to try the Barefoot Bubbly Pink Moscato Champagne for the first time and I must say it wasn't as sweet as I thought it would be. I'm really not a Moscato fan because I find it to be too sweet but surprising this was not.

I have not tried the Homemade White Castle Burgers as of yet book I did print the recipe to try soon.

Also I agree with Kim that the next book should be given out atleast 2 weeks before. So if you're next in line and know the book please post it soon so everyone can have a chance to get it in time.

Ladies, do you think two books a month would work better because I know a few of us have already finished the first book. Do you think 2 weeks per book will work for everyone schedule?

Kim, you know me and I wouldn't say jealous but I would say protective over what I have worked so hard to create. I agree a friendly conversation/relationship is perfectly fine for my husband to have with another woman as long as it stays friendly and nothing more. The reality is we live and work in a world filled with many different people and it is unrealistic to think that our significant others is not going to talk to other women and I'm okay with that as long as I know about the women. Now if I find secret msgs that have turned from friendly to messy then I have a problem.

If you cannot tell your significant other about the conversations than you know you're doing something wrong. As we seen in the book our conscience is their to keep us from crossing that line if we listen and not give in to self.

I truly believe that in order for men and women to just be friends their has to be one person in the relationship that wants nothing but to be friends and has the self-control to keep it just that. Truth is being around a person for some long brings about feelings and sometime its the opposite because knowing too much about a person completely turns you off atleast that is what I found but it makes your relationship stronger. I also agree with Kim as you get in a committed relationships those relationships tend to become less and less and maybe that is out of respect but they do.

Can men and women be friends and nothing more?

Ronda wrote: "Hello everyone-

The first book we'll read is..... Drum roll please.... Truth or Dare by Dwanye S. Joseph. I really hope everyone enjoys this book. Below is a description of the book.

Jess Ro..."

Ronda I can not find Barefoot Pink Moscato Champagne but I did find a Pink Moscato Champagne by a different brand do you think it would taste the same or should I go hit up every store in Arkansas for Barefoot brand lol

Ladies, have you all had a chance to get the book? Discussion for the first couple chapters will begin by the end of this week so please let us know.

Even though I just started reading the book I must say Dwayne S. Joseph has me turning the pages wondering whats goingto happen next. I cannot not wait to start discussing the first few chapter with you ladies and see you all reactions.

Based off what I have read so far without any spoilers...

Do you guys think having a no sex friendly conversation/relationship with the opposite sex is wrong when you're in a committed relationship?

we start reading tomorrow and we will be having open discussions every 5 chapters since we are online. So that should be atleast once a week...please let us know if this is not enough time

Sounds Like a good book something I can relate to when it comes to being a student, wife, and mother!!

Kim wrote: "Just an FYI, for anyone with a smart phone, the Nook and Kindle apps are free. Its a small screen but the books are cheap and some of the classics are free."

Tried and it was not so bad!! Goingto get the real deal though cause I need the bigger screen so iwant go blind lol

Ronda Butler:

Is the first host of the Book and Wine Club.

As the hostess she is responsible for picking the book, leading the discussion, picking the wine and recipe of the month. There are no restrictions on what books the hostess chooses--fiction, nonfiction, self-help--everything's fair game.

Ronda please let us know the book by Monday or sooner so we can purchase the book and have it by November 1, 2011.