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speaking as one ASD person, it took me WAY longer to understand relationships and relationship building (enjoying other people's company deeply) but once I did the work and could see it, relationships are the best part of my life. It is just very hard to learn when you do not read body language, are distracted by your hobbies and in many ways offending anyone close to you inadvertently. Loads of barriers to relationship building. When I was raising my own ASD son, I had more insight. It is natural for an ASD person to use a relationship as a tool to swap in and out around an interest, but you can grow into just spending time with someone on their terms and getting lots of pleasure out of it and cease treating people that love you as instruments. Takes so long --only the best sort of people stick around. Truthfully, Harry Potter taught me lots about friendship and how nice that can be. But now I get it and have it figured out. Another truism is the older i get, the less my ASD hurts me socially and the more ASD my NT friends get. Mature adult NT's want to spend their day in pjs and love a cancelled plan or hate showing up at a party too. I guess we all can find a way into each other. Excuse my long comment. I'm gonna look up SPCD now.
My daughter has ASD and she's the most social person in my family. She's never met a stranger who is a stranger. Everyone is an instant friend in her world. We have to explain to people that she doesn't understand social boundaries. The saying "If you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism" is so very true. It's a very wide spectrum and no two autistic individuals are the same.
Autistic and I really love being around others and having a few key, but deep, relationships. My autistic husband is happy with just me... "spectrum" means that our traits and expressions vary.
Far be it from me to comment on any of your first hand experiences, but Molly is a fictional character who in my opinion displays deplorable behavior at the end of the story, whatever her "label."
Yes, the original Q asks if the author is on the spectrum/writing from her own experiences? This answer (& many of the 12 others) veered off onto the Molly character & autism in general. Just reminding everyone that it is fiction, so doesn't matter if Prose is autistic or not, does it?
Loads of autistic people deeply enjoy the company of others, myself included! That's an ill-informed stereotype.
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speaking as one ASD person, it took me WAY longer to understand relationships and relationship building (enjoying other people's company deeply) but once I did the work and could see it, relationships are the best part of my life. It is just very hard to learn when you do not read body language, are distracted by your hobbies and in many ways offending anyone close to you inadvertently. Loads of barriers to relationship building. When I was raising my own ASD son, I had more insight. It is natural for an ASD person to use a relationship as a tool to swap in and out around an interest, but you can grow into just spending time with someone on their terms and getting lots of pleasure out of it and cease treating people that love you as instruments. Takes so long --only the best sort of people stick around. Truthfully, Harry Potter taught me lots about friendship and how nice that can be. But now I get it and have it figured out. Another truism is the older i get, the less my ASD hurts me socially and the more ASD my NT friends get. Mature adult NT's want to spend their day in pjs and love a cancelled plan or hate showing up at a party too. I guess we all can find a way into each other. Excuse my long comment. I'm gonna look up SPCD now.
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My daughter has ASD and she's the most social person in my family. She's never met a stranger who is a stranger. Everyone is an instant friend in her world. We have to explain to people that she doesn't understand social boundaries. The saying "If you've met one person with autism, you've met one person with autism" is so very true. It's a very wide spectrum and no two autistic individuals are the same.
Autistic and I really love being around others and having a few key, but deep, relationships. My autistic husband is happy with just me... "spectrum" means that our traits and expressions vary.
Far be it from me to comment on any of your first hand experiences, but Molly is a fictional character who in my opinion displays deplorable behavior at the end of the story, whatever her "label."
Yes, the original Q asks if the author is on the spectrum/writing from her own experiences? This answer (& many of the 12 others) veered off onto the Molly character & autism in general. Just reminding everyone that it is fiction, so doesn't matter if Prose is autistic or not, does it?
Loads of autistic people deeply enjoy the company of others, myself included! That's an ill-informed stereotype.
