Matthew’s answer to “You have been able to look at some of your childhood experiences as happening for you not to you. A…” > Likes and Comments

Thank you for that answer, it has given me something to think about the last few days. It's very similar to Al-Anon's love the man, hate the disease. I think my coping mechanism has been to remind myself that others have it way worse. But that may have led to ignoring they happened. I like your idea of admitting you are a victim (yes they happened and that's out of my control) but no I won't be victimized (take back that control) by allowing it define me.
Thank you for sharing your stories and answering my question, it has given me a lot to think about which is what I look for in the books I read.