Questions About Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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IS EVERY FEMINIST HAPPY WITH THIS TITEL ?! THE WORLD IS FULL (SOME PEOPLE MIGHT THINK) OF LEFT WING, POLITICAL CORECT SELFRIGOURES HYPOCRITS !

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What if you are told that it's all your fault. What if you did do something years ago that hurt him but he keeps bringing it up and makes threats and belittles and acts in anger frequently when he doesn't get what he wants, is that something that you have to work on or should he change? will this book help with that or do I deserve it.

erl it sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. The book addresses every point you mention. Nobody deserves to be abused. He keeps bringing up what…moreit sounds like you are in an abusive relationship. The book addresses every point you mention. Nobody deserves to be abused. He keeps bringing up whatever you did in the past not because you "hurt him" so terribly, but because he enjoys manipulating and controlling you. You cannot control him. Of course he should change- -no one should be an abuser. But he probably won't. Read the book, and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799 SAFE. Call this number even if he doesn't beat you. They will refer you to local resources. I wish you strength. (less)

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Should an abusive partner read this book?

C I'm guessing you're wondering if you should ask your partner to read it. I wouldn't recommend this. In fact, I don't see that going over well at all. …moreI'm guessing you're wondering if you should ask your partner to read it. I wouldn't recommend this. In fact, I don't see that going over well at all. Give up hope that he will ever change and leave.(less)

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I'm wondering if this book might help me better understand my father. Thoughts?

C It really depends. Since you're asking, it sounds like your father was abusive. Mine was too, but this book didn't really help me understand him any m…moreIt really depends. Since you're asking, it sounds like your father was abusive. Mine was too, but this book didn't really help me understand him any more than I already did since I already knew he was a PoS. I think this book helped me understand my mother more: why she got into a relationship with such an angry, horrible person and why she stayed. I still don't really understand it that much, but I'm at least aware of what she was probably thinking and why.(less)

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Does anyone know if there is a Chinese/Mandarin translation of this book out there? I know someone who would really benefit from reading this but they do not read English very well and will be more inclined to read it if it were in a different language.

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Has any man organised a book discussion group around this book?

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Would you like some company while reading this book? I offer to hold an experiential book discussion group for a group of people who aim to read the book or are struggling while reading it. I am finding it a hard read because it is so close to home, and the work I do. I do not like to propose books to clients before reading them.

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