In the Beginning, We are Alone
In the beginning, we are alone.
We may grow up in a happy family, feeling close to our parents, but as we mature, we eventually realize that we are separate from our parents and their relationship. We start looking at those around us, hoping that one day we will have someone to share our lives. A soul mate, a kindred spirit, a true love, our better half. As humans, we desire intimacy – not just physical – we want to connect intellectually, emotionally and philosophically as well.
And it’s hard.
In many ways I think it is life’s biggest challenge — learning to trust, to love and to take a risk, committing to someone else – someone with flaws, just as we are flawed.
And we have to be patient.
First love is rarely a lasting love. So that means we go through the process again and again, searching until – hopefully – we get it right. But love is not static. We have to keep committing, keep trusting, keep taking those emotional risks to keep the love we have.
This is why so many people read romances and watch romantic movies.
No matter where we are in the romantic rollercoaster, most of us want a happy ending. And for me, nothing is better than story where two people become one. When I read or watch a romance, I’m reminded of my story and the stories of my friends and family. If the romance rings true, it re-affirms what I already believe – that love however improbable, is possible. I love watching two imperfect people overcome obstacles and become better because of their love for each other. Romance is important because it’s a fundamental part of life.
In the end, we all die, and on my deathbed, I don’t want to be alone. I want to be next to the man I love. And if he has already died, I hope he’s eagerly waiting for me in the hereafter. I hope my children still love me and that they have found their own loves as well. I think that’s what most of us want – to love and be loved and to leave a legacy of love when we go.
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