Mirror, Mirror on the Wall, Who is to Blame for it All?
Individuals who seem to fail at any endeavor they attempt always know exactly who or what is to blame. It is everyone and everything but themselves.
They received poor grades in school because the teachers didn't like them, the other students picked on them, the instruction and study time were insufficient and the curriculum was too demanding.
They cannot keep a job because the boss never likes them, the other workers conspired against them, the quality of training was poor and time allotted too brief and the shift schedules were too demanding.
Their marriages all failed because their spouse did not truly love or understand them, they were not given sufficient time to adjust to married life and the demands of supporting and mentoring a spouse and children were too stressful and unrealistic.
Are you beginning to detect a pattern of behavior and attitude?
One is often inclined to accept too much of the credit for succeeding and deflect too much of the blame for failing. Everyone fails occasionally. However, a pattern of constant failure usually indicates that the person doing the failing may lack the capability, ability, self-discipline, determination and/or work ethic required to succeed.
There is a fool-proof method for chronic failures to discover where to place blame. Stare into any mirror and then recite this magical incantation: "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is to blame for it all?" The image of the person responsible will magically appear before their eyes.
They received poor grades in school because the teachers didn't like them, the other students picked on them, the instruction and study time were insufficient and the curriculum was too demanding.
They cannot keep a job because the boss never likes them, the other workers conspired against them, the quality of training was poor and time allotted too brief and the shift schedules were too demanding.
Their marriages all failed because their spouse did not truly love or understand them, they were not given sufficient time to adjust to married life and the demands of supporting and mentoring a spouse and children were too stressful and unrealistic.
Are you beginning to detect a pattern of behavior and attitude?
One is often inclined to accept too much of the credit for succeeding and deflect too much of the blame for failing. Everyone fails occasionally. However, a pattern of constant failure usually indicates that the person doing the failing may lack the capability, ability, self-discipline, determination and/or work ethic required to succeed.
There is a fool-proof method for chronic failures to discover where to place blame. Stare into any mirror and then recite this magical incantation: "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is to blame for it all?" The image of the person responsible will magically appear before their eyes.
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Christine wrote: "As always - you are direct and to the point. Placing blame is wasting time that could be used to find solutions. That time when problems become opportunities to learn and grow. My father (a very ..."
Christine,
Your father was definitely a very wise man and he apparently instilled that wisdom quite successfully in his daughter.
I am quite familiar with Pat Condrell's philosophical pronouncements and tend to totally agree with him approximately 98% of the time. The evaluation of some of today's universities and some of their students, expounded upon in this video, happens to be one with which I agree 100%. The concept of political correctness, though initially well-intended, is, more often than not, misinterpreted and misused to promote a misguided and usually radical personal agenda.
Thank you for remaining a loyal follower of the blog and once again taking the time to share your personal opinion and insight regarding the post's subject matter.
Jim Vuksic
I'm thinking of the tennis players who slowly are knocked out of the Australian Open. Who do they blame and do they improve for the next contest? Kerber has improved plus Raonic but both are destined to fail over the next few days.
Michael wrote: "I'm thinking of the tennis players who slowly are knocked out of the Australian Open. Who do they blame and do they improve for the next contest? Kerber has improved plus Raonic but both are destin..."Michael,
Astute observation. Athletes that recognize and accept responsibility for their weakness or errors are the ones most likely to strive for continuous improvement.
Thank you for loyally following the blog and, once again, taking the time to share your input.
Jim Vuksic
My father (a very wise man) taught his children to take credit for their mistakes. Doing things right brings its own recognition. Making mistakes requires a claim of ownership. He thought making mistakes was a sign of an adventurous spirit and decisive mind. Taking pride in our errors and finding solutions meant we could move on with nothing to hold us back. He was right.
I'm sending this video as it addresses a social issue that backs up this type of behavior. Let me know what you think.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjN8x...