Is it Possible to Love More Than One Person at the Same Time?

Is it possible to be romantically in love with more than one person? MUST we choose one person? Is monogamy attainable?

Many people believe it is or at least it must be that way. Society dictates that for the most part. And there is something very magical about giving yourself to one person, that loyalty and friendship that automatically come when you pledge your love to just one person.
But what happens if you find yourself unexpectedly drawn to more than one person? Perhaps even love that person? Why (as a good friend once admonished me for wanting) CAN’T we have our cakes and eat it too?

 Well...it’s simple. We all want to be CHOSEN. We want to be that special someone. We want to be the universe for someone else, that person he/she goes go for support and love and guidance and reassurance. We want to know that that person has our back, would walk the extra mile, would defend us against harm, and pick us up when we are our worst enemy. In short, we want them to love ONLY us.

Yes. I believe it’s possible to love more than one person for different reasons at the same time. Can you actually be “in love” with more than one person? It doesn’t matter. Because I wouldn’t want to be anything but his only, even if I may want to have my cake and eat it too. And isn’t that the most selfish thing in the world? Yup. It sure is. Because somehow I want the rules broken just for me. So unless you’ll willing to let them also have their cake and eat it too, and maybe you are, it won’t work any other way. And quite frankly, it simply doesn’t fit the ideal romantic that dwells deep inside of me. And the old adage seems to apply: Do onto others as you would have them do onto to you (or something like that).

So how do you choose if you find yourself in love or falling in love with more than one person?

First of all, the question is: Does it go both ways? Therein lies the beginning of your answer. Because sometimes the person we love may not love us back, and while painful, it makes the choice quite clear. And then of course, the choice is sometimes laid out for us because, well, there isn’t a choice. We’ve made our commitments and are in it for the long haul. Commitment. Loyalty. Trust. You’ve already given it. Timing. Sometimes, it comes down to simply that.
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And love versus lust? That will have to be a topic for a different blog! In the meantime, if you do find yourself falling in love with more than one person and need to make that choice, you can always do what Johnny Depp had to say. He may just be right!