5 to 1

5 to 1. That simple formula is the key to a healthy marriage. Sounds too good to be true? It's not.



John Gottman is America's pre-eminent marriage researcher. He claims to be able to predict with a 94% accuracy the likelihood that your marriage will last for the long haul. How? 5 to 1.



For every one (1) negative interaction (an unkind word, a cold shoulder given, the rolling of the eyes), there must be five (5) positive interactions (a smile, a compliment, a thank you, a love pat, a gaze into the eyes). 5 positive interactions offset 1 negative interaction. In other words, show me a couple where there is a lot of eye rolling and very few kindnesses, and you have shown me a couple well on their way to divorce.



During this Valentine's week, what a crucial lesson to absorb. Fill your relationship with small kindnesses and watch it flourish for years and years. How simple: Be kind to one   >>>>>   Read Entire Post