The Challenge of Forgiveness

I would never say that forgiveness is easy. And it's also not what we think it is: just because we forgive doesn't mean we condone what someone has done or that we forget what they did. Instead, forgiveness is about letting something go so that we can move forward. After all, the reality is that the other person involved quite honestly doesn't care. That might sound harsh, but many times we have people in our lives who don't care about anyone except themselves. And that's why forgiveness shouldn't be about them so much as it's about us.

If I am angry because someone has hurt me, it keeps me in one place. I can't move forward; I can't do much of anything. And you've probably figured out that one important aspect to me is to keep my life moving forward. I have goals and dreams I want to accomplish. Anger keeps me from them.

While there are many roads to forgiving someone, one way is to pray for them. And if prayer isn't your thing, then send them positive energy. 

I know, it feels impossible, doesn't it? Why would you want to send positive energy, to hope for the best, to someone who has caused you such pain? Because it's about you. And you know what? You'll feel better.

Try it. It will feel uncomfortable, you might even stumble over putting the very thought together. But try it and see what happens.

Remember, forgiveness is about you.